Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Hi. I’m Lannee. And in August of this year, I had my heart broken.It is now November, and the pain has only gotten worse. Mornings and evenings are very hard to get through. Usually evenings, but lately mornings have been extremely tough on me. Waking up is hard. Falling asleep is even harder. I try to …
I was 20 years old when I lost my virginity. I believed in the notion that sex, at first for women, will be uncomfortable because our bodies have to get used to it. Plus, I’m Asian, so there is a misunderstanding that Asian women have tight vaginas so it might take a little bit longer …
Let’s be real… For those of us who have experienced pain before, transitioning from your dilating process to penetrative sex is a leap of faith of its own. You’re already making a wonderful amount of progress in your both your emotional and physical healing journeys, AS WELL AS the often overlooked adventure of finding and …
I have found though that many of us experience a certain level of discomfort related to the penis. Whether it’s the shape itself… Or our perception this body part has been tainted by various factors – fearful and painful experiences of the past, or simply what we’ve heard about the penis being used as a …
A few months ago, I had an incredibly vulnerable experience… It was arguably one of the Top 3 most beautiful and bonding moments with my partner. YES, it involved me crying, BIG time. But hey, vulnerability IS a sign of strength! It’s really important to be able to release our emotions and process them in …
After dating for 9 years, I finally married in November 2017, the happiest moment in my life. Became a King and Queen in a day. The night after the wedding reception was supposed to be the beginning of my sexual life, but instead was the moment I felt something was wrong with my body. But …
When we first discovered that penetrative sex wasn’t working (the penis just couldn’t go in) I was really distressed. I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me. It didn’t help that our living circumstances at the time was very difficult, we were living with parents and didn’t have our own space (to make it worse, …
First of all, don’t get me wrong… I have loving and supportive parents. Neither do I want to cast a bad light on my father nor depict my childhood as absolutely horrible. Yet, while my mother used to be the empathetic, emotional part of the two, my father was (and mostly is) the rational, strict …
A lot of women who have vaginismus experience the symptoms long before finding out there is a special term for this condition, or as Katrin encourages us to call it, this body response. You might have heard the term in your 20s for the first time. You may have had anywhere from zero to multiple …
Before we ever talk about introducing penetration again through something like dilating, the emotional healing journey to find safety in your mind and body again is crucial… And so is rekindling intimate connection with yourself and with your partner! Adding fun, play and pleasure back into turn-on is a MUST! As part of rekindling that …