Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
This piece was written a few years ago to share words of wisdom on how to effectively support someone experiencing depression. Be warned. You’ll sometimes be told that you’re outright a terrible support system, or that he would have preferred one method of support over the one you chose in his latest episode. And as …
This piece was written a few years ago, in the depth of trying to navigate my partner’s manic behaviour. The truth is… That some people only start living fully after being stripped of the life they once had and being forced to rebuild themselves from the ground up. Think freak accidents, devastating losses, intense moments …
This piece was written a few years ago, in the depth of trying to process the slow but steady damage of my partner’s depressive episodes. Today, I realized that I had spent too much energy seeking his attention. Of course, I noticed this only after depleting my supply. Sadly, my attempts were barely successful. Have …
This piece was written a few years ago, in the depth of trying to understand what was happening with my partner. Depression is very real. I never thought I’d be hit head on with this monster of a condition, or whatever it is. I don’t understand it. And the scary part is that to be …
It was especially powerful speaking these words directly to the camera, with Dmitri standing behind the lens… By the end, he was in tears just like we both were when I read this to him for the first time months earlier. And it was such a beautiful experience. Tell me who you think you are…The …
Communication is like a muscle… So divulging my sexy little secret is a strenuous workout, or at least it was at first. For the purposes of this conversation, I will be talking about cisgendered straight men. This is because people I have had sex with in the queer community have not been phased by my …
When I was first diagnosed with vaginismus I was in a relationship with a loving cis-gendered male partner. He was supportive and helped me work through a lot. We were together for two years and got very creative in the bedroom! When that relationship ended, (due to distance) I feared I would never find anyone …
Hookup culture! What a wild ride it’s been. There are aspects that I struggle with, in the most general sense, adding vaginismus to the mix only makes it more complicated. On the other hand, I am a singleton who wants to have a sex life. So how have I embraced this contradiction? Hookup culture is …