Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Hookup culture! What a wild ride it’s been. There are aspects that I struggle with, in the most general sense, adding vaginismus to the mix only makes it more complicated. On the other hand, I am a singleton who wants to have a sex life. So how have I embraced this contradiction? Hookup culture is …
Love life. Societal conditioning has shaped us to think sex as soon as we hear ‘love life’. Similarly, as soon as we hear sex, we think penetrative sex – that’s how we’ve understood it as a result of the media and our sex education (the little bit we received). But… Sex is SO much more …
Many thanks to Victor Yrigoyen for the illustrations. Check out his website and Instagram. “For many, the psychological impact of vaginismus can be even more agonizing than the physical pain. The stigma of “virginity,” combined with the lacking mention of vaginismus in public dialogue, society’s insistence that “men need sex,” and the social pressure on women to have …
What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …
For as long as I could remember, I was always afraid of my vagina. I was scared to touch it, scared to look at it, scared and terrified of it. Looking back, I feel like this fear was my body telling me that something was wrong. I remember watching an episode of Tyra Banks talk …
This post was “under construction” for quite some time. Every time I sat down to write this blog, I would have writer’s block and I didn’t really know how to start talking about it. I didn’t really know how to address it and I wasn’t sure how much I wanted to disclose about my life …
A few weeks ago, my partner had surprised me with a massage table. Early this morning, my wake-up call was his warm embrace, followed by a whisper in my ear… “If you get your gorgeous body on the massage table in the next 15 minutes, you’re in for a treat.” Mmm-hmm. Am I dreaming? With …