Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
“I have been dealing with vaginismus for roughly two and a half years now. This is a condition that involves a painful contraction of the muscles of the vagina in response to penetration. Many describe this pain as a tearing sensation or as though there is an impenetrable wall inside the vagina. In my personal …
Hi. I’m Lannee. And in August of this year, I had my heart broken.It is now November, and the pain has only gotten worse. Mornings and evenings are very hard to get through. Usually evenings, but lately mornings have been extremely tough on me. Waking up is hard. Falling asleep is even harder. I try to …
“Vaginismus is the involuntary contraction of muscles around the opening of the vagina in women with no abnormalities in the genital organs.” – Rosemary Basson Well…I guess that’s me. Hi there! I’m Lannee, a vulva owner with no abnormalities in her genital organs. (cue Jenna Marbles singing voice) I’m a 22-year-old lady, and I’m experiencing …
It’s been two years since the word, “vaginismus” was thrown at me. Two years of agony, two years of sadness, two years of depression, two years of self loathing, two years of physical pain, two years of self-neglect, two years of complete and utter loneliness. I was in bed when it happened – I had …
The first time I’ve heard the word vaginismus I was 35 years old and I was not able to practice intercourse. By then, I was having a nice life in Barcelona, where I am from, living with my ex-boyfriend, enjoying my family and friends and with an exciting role in a womenswear fashion retail company. …
When I was in high school, my mom took me to the gynaecologist to address heavy bleeding and intense cramps. The doctor tried to perform a pelvic exam on me, and it was horrible. I had never seen a speculum before and the doctor did not offer to use a smaller size on me. I …
Trigger warning: this story is about abuse. One day, she got mad at him. My mother was mad at my stepfather. I don’t know why. Usually it was me everyone was mad at. I was seven years old, and everyone in the house knew what he did to me, and yet nobody every got mad …
My journey with vaginismus started right around the time most people my age were exploring having sex. I was 16 and attempted intercourse with my boyfriend at the time. Right away something was wrong. I felt excruciating pain without it even going in. I knew it wasn’t normal but I was reassured next time it’ll …
I have found though that many of us experience a certain level of discomfort related to the penis. Whether it’s the shape itself… Or our perception this body part has been tainted by various factors – fearful and painful experiences of the past, or simply what we’ve heard about the penis being used as a …
A few months ago, I had an incredibly vulnerable experience… It was arguably one of the Top 3 most beautiful and bonding moments with my partner. YES, it involved me crying, BIG time. But hey, vulnerability IS a sign of strength! It’s really important to be able to release our emotions and process them in …