11 Tips From Vulva Owners: What Helped Them Overcome Vaginismus
These tips reveal some nitty gritty details you're unlikely to read anywhere else... Be warned, these beautiful people hold nothing back!
BONUS: You also get the "Feel Less Alone" audio to help you stay positive and inspired, even through the toughest days.
Katrin with Love
Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Hi, My Name Is Katrin And I Know What You're Going Through...
I wanted to beat vaginismus, but my unconscious mind and my body didn't cooperate for years.
From the age of 18 to 22, penetration meant sharp and unexplainable pain. I either put up a wall making it impossible to let my partner in, intercourse was too painful to continue, or I tolerated the torture to the extreme of silent tears.
Sure, the fun in foreplay was fantastic, but I started to loathe where it was leading...
Do you know what I mean?
Throughout my 23rd year of life, I was still searching for the drive to fool around sexually.
Although I didn't have a group of people to confide in who could relate, I often got lucky with loving and supportive partners. Most knew about my struggles, while with others I foolishly chose to pretend I was okay.
I was embarrassed to share my secret with more people than absolutely necessary....
At the same time, I was desperately motivating myself to remain calm and stay positive.
After going down many different paths looking for a solution, finding disappointment at every turn, I eventually created the recipe to success.
At 24, I achieved pain free sex! My expectation of pain was replaced with excitement to explore the variety in intimacy.
I started communicating my desires, welcoming the fun that came with penetration and taking an active role in the bedroom.
I found freedom and it was so worth it!
I survived the rollercoaster ride that I once thought would last forever...
I travelled from the most excruciating pain I have ever experienced... through the confusion, embarrassment and guilt... and finally arrived at the joy of unconstrained sexual fun.
Now I'd like to share my recipe to success with you.
And because I know it's way harder going through it alone, I created a community to help you confidently walk along YOUR path to sexual freedom.
Are you interested in having me as your guide on the vaginismus journey?
Click below if you'd like to find out more about how we can work together.
I wouldn't have had the courage to go through all the dilators and other at-home therapy without finding Katrin
After I found her Instagram handle (@pain.free.and.intimate), I learned so much about vaginismus, tips and tricks and most of all felt like I had a support group to be part of.
All of her videos and posts have been educational and also encouraging. I wouldn't have had the courage to go through all the dilators and other at-home therapy without finding Katrin. More recently, she also helped me with my anxiety/fear of a gynaecology appointment. I don't think I would have had the courage to go through the appointment without her support.
I thank her for all she's doing and bringing all of us women together to be a support group! I wish her the best of luck.
- Urvi (34 years old, West Orange, USA)
Thankfully Katrin made me motivated and brave enough to go for it and it was a great decision
For weeks I have never had the courage to really face the fight against vaginismus. I had bought dilators a few weeks ago but didn't plan on using time any time soon.
But then I took a social media break and focused on myself for some time. I have followed Katrin's Instagram account (@pain.free.and.intimate) for a while and the content she provided inspired and motivated me to actually start and face the struggle with vaginismus to get better.
And then I just tried dilating for the first time! I didn't think much, I simply tried it without any expectations because of what I learned from Katrin's content. I still thought it will be so tough and painful because that was all I knew from past experiences with intercourse or medical exams.
Then I started with the first size dilator and I didn't feel any pain, because I prepared by breathing and calming me down. It was not painful or uncomfortable at all. I was so happy. On the next day I continued with the second size and it was the same! In the following days I was able to make it up to size 3. Then I realized that size 3 is all I can do for now but that was okay!
I was so relieved that I managed to do the first 3 sizes and I would never know if I never tried!
Thankfully Katrin made me motivated and brave enough to go for it and it was a great decision. After all you never know how much affected you are if you never try for yourself! Sometimes all you need is to simply dare! I'm glad I did.
-Kristina (23, Hamburg, Germany)
This Is What People Who Have Worked With Me In Other Realms Are Saying
"She puts care into everything she does"
"Katrin has many unique capabilities, but to name one I believe it would be caring. She puts care into everything she does. When I required coaching on the work assigned to me she put in the effort to ensure I completely understood in such a way that was both motivating and informative. I honestly believe that the care and dedication that Katrin puts into both her work and building relationships with others is what she naturally does better than most people. She has left a lasting impression on me due to her care and excitement for life!" - Mercedes
"Her ability to stay calm and inspire others"
"I think a trait really unique to Katrin is her ability to stay calm and inspire others under even the toughest and most demanding situations. I found that whenever I’ve worked with her over the last two years she has always had an attitude that communicated that she knew what she was doing and that everything was going to be okay. During a project when everyone was freaking out at times, she always seemed calm and composed. This helped and inspired me." - Joey
"Katrin is a natural teacher"
"I would say her unique ability would be mediating and communicating with a huge variety of personalities and professions. No matter who she's in a room with, she can always engage in a meaningful and memorable conversation, which makes her very empathetic and a very good mediator." - Nataly
"She is a very honest and deep person"
"Those around her don't feel judged"
"I believe that Katrin has an incredible ability to keep an open mind in many situations. I haven't had a time yet when she did not listen to my or others' point of view first before stating her opinion. Not many people have this open-mindedness skill, as it is difficult to hear someone out while already having a set opinion on a topic. With this ability, those around her don't feel judged and instead feel comfortable to share many things with her." - Yaroslava
"I've never seen her dwell on a negative aspect"
"Katrin is naturally able to give off positive energy and create a more upbeat situation. I’ve never seen her dwell on a negative aspect! This to me is her unique capability. I feel like positivity comes naturally to her." - Rada
"Empathetic and compassionate view of the world and others"
"Her unique capability in my opinion is that she is able to combine logical and quantitative intelligence with an empathetic and compassionate view of the world and others. Most people tend to lean much more on one side but Katrin has strengths in both sides. What she does naturally better than others I would say is taking in information (listening) and applying both a logical and empathetic solution (advice)." - Eric
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