Before we ever talk about introducing penetration again through something like dilating, the emotional healing journey to find safety in your mind and body again is crucial…
And so is rekindling intimate connection with yourself and with your partner!
Adding fun, play and pleasure back into turn-on is a MUST!
As part of rekindling that spark, we must learn how to access our authentic path to erotic turn-on in a light-hearted and relaxing way…
I don’t know about you, but getting ‘naughty’ is one style of play that turns me on.
(Keep in mind that ‘naughty’ means something different for everyone – whatever is risqué or ‘taboo’ is unique to YOU!)
There is a lot of fun available in varied dynamics and intensity of play – and often the risqué factor is really relevant for how ‘naughty’ something feels!
Risqué might mean oral sex on the kitchen counter, or sex on the balcony, or perhaps an orgasm during candle-lit dinner at a fancy restaurant… WHILE making eye contact with your lover from across the table?!
How does that last one work, you ask?
There’s an app for that!
Well and a vibrator to go with it.
Even though adding play and pleasure IS very much possible without any toys, I’ve found that toys can help us access a new level of variety with ease!
The We-Vibe Moxie is a wearable hands-free vibrator designed to stimulate the clitoris AND feel comfortable on your vulva as you wear it for extended periods of time throughout your day.
This is what it looks like:
It is discrete and can be worn underneath clothing!
All you do is place the vibrator wherever you would like on your vulva, put your underwear on and then place the magnet on the outside of your underwear to hold the toy in place!
Kind of like this…
Then, you can use the hand-held remote to control the We-Vibe Moxie.
Or you can take advantage of its Bluetooth capabilities and the free We-Connect™ app to access a slew of vibration possibilities!
So whether you have a partner or not, using this vibrator and app can be a really fun way to introduce non-penetrative play and pleasurable teasing back into your sex life!
Let’s explore HOW it works.
The main factor to consider when choosing a vibrator is which KIND of vibrations it offers.
There’s the standard vibrations option, oscillations and air pressure play technologies.
The We-Vibe Moxie has standard vibrations that move from side to side, rather than the in and out movement of oscillations – which are more like tapping or thudding rather than vibrating.
But vibrations also have 2 types – they can be more buzzy (like my dilators were), or rumbly.
The We-Vibe Moxie is rumbly rather than buzzy. And I love that.
Rumbly sensations generally allow for a deeper pleasure and more of a full-body experience, while buzzy sensations that can make you feel tingly and numb in the vulva region.
Especially for a vibrator that may be turned on and off for extended periods of time (at as a surprise throughout the day), it is extra important that the vibrations aren’t too buzzy and overwhelming!
The We-Vibe Moxie has 10 vibration modes (as elegantly demonstrated below in my own language), EACH one available at a wide range of intensities:
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My favourites are numbers 3 and 6!
Ease of Use
Here are some technicalities of how to connect and use the app:
First, make sure that the toy itself is in pairing mode by pressing the power button for 5 seconds – this will have the toy vibrate twice and a blue light will flash.
Follow the prompts on the We-Connect™ app and voila, you’re ready to play!
The Bluetooth connection works from 30 ft away (when there’s a direct, line-of-sight) and about 20 ft of a 360-degree range. I didn’t have any difficulties connecting to the toy and keeping up the connection from opposite corners of a 2 story house!
So what can you do on the app?
You can swipe up and down to increase the intensity of the current vibration on the We-Vibe Moxie and swipe left and right to change vibration modes.
You can ALSO vibe to the rhythm of a song, or the sounds around you by choosing the ambient mode! I was impressed with how well the beat of the music got recognized and transferred as a vibrating musical experience!
As well, you can create your own vibration directly in the app!
One way is using the touch screen to literally create the vibrations you want real-time. The intensity levels can be turned up or down using the controls on the screen, as well as based on how fast you swipe on the screen!
Yeah, kind of like that!
(Except you can also set your maximum intensity directly in the app to make sure that things don’t get too overwhelming!)
AND you can take the DJ mixing approach – you choose the vibe types from the menu as well as the intensities you’d like.. And you stack them up to create your own go-to vibration mixtape.
And how do you naughtily involve your partner if they’re not in proximity to you?
Just have your partner download the app, invite them through your app and they’ll get to be the master of the vibrations from afar!
Just make sure you leave the toy connected to the phone that remains within Bluetooth range of the vibrator.
This can be a really fun way for them to randomly tease you with pleasure throughout the day, or for you to take phone sex to a whole new level!
- If you’d like to be pleasantly surprised throughout your day, just make sure that your sleep mode is extended so it keeps your We-Vibe Moxie on standby for up to 4 hours before entering into sleep mode.
- Tell your partner not to blast you with a high intensity vibration right off the bat (unless you want to jump up in your chair if you get startled easily, like many of us do)!
You can ALSO text or video chat with your partner, directly within the app (if you’re comfortable with sharing your private texts and videos on a third-party app of course)!
All in all, I am thoroughly impressed with the breadth of options this vibrator has, as made possible by the app!
Ease of Cleaning
The We-Vibe Moxie is waterproof, making it easy to clean (and use in the shower or bath if that’s your thing!)
However, the remote controls are NOT water resistant!
Ease of Charging
It comes with a magnetic USB charging cable that easily stays on. It’s LED light is pulsing blue when the cable is attached and it is charging. And it stops pulsing when it’s fully charged.
You can also see the exact charge % in the app, which is super handy!
The We-Vibe Moxie is made of body safe silicone – that’s what you should be looking for!
The We-Vibe Moxie comes in light blue or black. The remote control is white and grey for both.
This toy is whisper quiet.
I find that being discreet is especially important for this toy, given it must stay incognito in certain more public locations!
I wouldn’t use it in the quiet room of a library, but a coffee shop, restaurant, or even an office can be the perfect settings for this type of risqué play.
Well, that last one is totally play-at-your-own-risk!
Price (in USD)
The We-Vibe Moxie retails for $123 USD, which is among the higher-price point toys.
What do you think about the trying the We-Vibe Moxie? Would you give it a shot for adding the play and teasing back into your healing process?
Please comment below with your thoughts, questions or objections about anything I shared! I’d love to hear what you think!
Also, I want to congratulate you for committing to your healing journey by doing your research and reading this!
Starting is the hardest step and that means you’re well on your path to healing! Celebrate that fact today… Treat yourself, your deserve it!
And if you haven’t gotten your hands on my free online course yet, get “Putting Vaginismus In The Past” now.
To you and your playful side!
– Katrin, with Love