Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
After working through vaginismus and finally being able to achieve PAIN-FREE penetration.. Let’s talk about turning pain-free into PLEASURABLE! If penetration wasn’t going to be pleasurable… The goal ideally is to experience PLEASURE in a sexual experience, both externally and internally. How so? Partly by exploring the erogenous zones inside the vagina! One of the …
Do you feel that burning… And the pain? What IF your lubricant actually helped your muscles relax and even soothed the stabbing sensation you feel? You see, lubricant to a set of dilators is like the cheese to a good bowl of macaroni. You can’t get enough of it. *If you’re asking yourself “What are …
You might not the type to just go out and buy a vibrator… I know I wasn’t. I was a bit curious about vibrators, but not enough to trek to a sex store for one or buy it online either. A part of me thought I just SHOULDN’T indulge in this sexual pleasure, especially with …
What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …
At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …
Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …
For many vulva owners struggling with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, a daily practice with dilators is often part of the healing journey… *If you’re asking yourself “What are dilators?”, you might first want to read about how dilating can help on your journey in healing vaginismus. But minty gum?! Let me back up …
Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …
Let’s admit it. Pads aren’t exactly comfortable. But for many vulva owners who experience vaginismus, they’re the most common option. And might be the case for you (as it was for me a few years ago), tampons are a bit too advanced and maybe NOT a possibility (yet)… And… Don’t get me started on the …
Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …