Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
I’m a rather sensitive person that soaks up information like a sponge, being influenced (and confused) by different attitudes and opinions. I often do not trust my own judgment… Driven by the desire to fit in and to do everything right. That’s why all the books I read, all the stereotypical Hollywood movies I watched …
I clearly remember… As I went deeper and deeper down the slippery slope of pain, my desire for sexual acts diminished. I mean of course it would! Penetrative sex was at first impossible for me. When I tried to force it and push through the initial physical barrier, it became incredibly painful. Think a freshly …
Watch Tightly Wound, a film by Shelby Hadden and Sebastian Bisbal. Writing and making the film did force me to re-live some of my experiences, but the process of working with them and re-telling them and making something beautiful was incredibly healing. – Shelby Hadden, Writer/Director/Producer Shelby’s vaginismus story I realized something was wrong when I …
“Have a glass of wine to loosen yourself up a bit?” These words were said to me by a doctor a few weeks before I turned 30. I’d been sexually active for 14 years and the truth is that sex was a mystery to me. I had had sex. Lots of sex. But for the …
5 years ago, if I watched this video, I would have anger pulsing and flowing through me. 😡 Anger blanketed towards our societal experiences as humans in the world. The expectations that are thrown at both vulva and penis owners (and especially vulva owners as ‘sex symbols’) – expectations of who we SHOULD be in our lives. …
Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …
My own experience with vaginismus inspired me to write Debbie Does Dilators. – Savannah Magruder, Writer/Director, award-winning filmmaker Watch the film here! And below is Savannah’s personal story and inside scoop about the film… After several years of struggling with the condition – enduring excruciatingly painful sex, being patronized and misdiagnosed by dismissive doctors, and …
“…you shouldn’t be scared to seek help. We all need a little help sometimes and finding support for vaginismus is a crucial step to overcoming it. Don’t worry about what people might think of you or what society is telling you. They don’t matter anyways. Instead, focus on you. Focus on relaxing and helping yourself …