The first time I’ve heard the word vaginismus I was 35 years old and I was not able to practice intercourse. By then, I was having a nice life in Barcelona, where I am from, living with my ex-boyfriend, enjoying my family and friends and with an exciting role in a womenswear fashion retail company. …
Paid For My Silence – Karen’s Story
Trigger warning: this story is about abuse. One day, she got mad at him. My mother was mad at my stepfather. I don’t know why. Usually it was me everyone was mad at. I was seven years old, and everyone in the house knew what he did to me, and yet nobody every got mad …
What Vaginal Reflexology Has To Do With Sexual Liberation
There’s no doubt that sexual shame and suppression exist… On a MASSIVE scale in our society. It is the programming that we’ve received in our childhood and throughout our lives, passed down generation to generation. That is the culprit here. The hush hush attitude towards sex and intimacy among our families… Then the ridiculously surface …
Creative Writing As A Tool For Overcoming Vaginismus
When I was in high school, my mom took me to the gynaecologist to address heavy bleeding and intense cramps. The doctor tried to perform a pelvic exam on me, and it was horrible. I had never seen a speculum before and the doctor did not offer to use a smaller size on me. I …
We Were Able To Have Pain Free, Stress Free And Pleasant Penetration!!
Over the last week I have had several sessions with my partner where we were able to have pain free, stress free and pleasant penetration!! Last Sunday, we managed full penetration for the first time. It was so much easier than I had thought.. I had bought a realistic dildo (12.5″ circumference), which had been quite …
Transitioning To Penetrative Sex In Luxury
Let’s be real… For those of us who have experienced pain before, transitioning from your dilating process to penetrative sex is a leap of faith of its own. You’re already making a wonderful amount of progress in your both your emotional and physical healing journeys, AS WELL AS the often overlooked adventure of finding and …
I Felt Immediately At Ease In Speaking With Katrin – She Was A Calming Presence And Had A Wealth Of Knowledge That She Shared Generously
As a professional and someone that also has been on the journey of healing from vaginismus, I appreciated the opportunity to connect with a fellow helper and healer. I was fortunate in that I was connected to appropriate and helpful providers early on in my diagnosis, but I truly don’t know how many years I …
When Sexy Time Turns Into Sad Time – My Life With Vaginismus: Lannee’s Story
“Vaginismus is the involuntary contraction of muscles around the opening of the vagina in women with no abnormalities in the genital organs.” – Rosemary Basson Well…I guess that’s me. Hi there! I’m Lannee, a vulva owner with no abnormalities in her genital organs. (cue Jenna Marbles singing voice) I’m a 22-year-old lady, and I’m experiencing …
I Now Wear Tampons Pain Free And Have Had Intercourse Without ANY PAIN
Before I came across Katrin, I was seriously worried about my future with the constant questions of will I ever find love, will I ever be able to have children, will I ever not be excluded out of the girly chats about casual hook up’s, the constant feelings of guilt and pain within my heart …
I Went Through My First PAP Test
I went through my first PAP test today and I’m so happy! My healthcare provider was a kind and gentle lady and made me super comfortable.. Woohoo!! In the past I tried but wasn’t able to go through with it and had asked the healthcare provider to stop (about 2 years back). I’m now on dilator 7 …