Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Vaginismus. Personally, I think it sounds like a magic spell from a movie when you first hear it… Yet for the most part, women going through it will tell you first-hand that vaginismus is more like a curse. Vaginismus refers to the spasm of your pelvic muscles during any kind of penetrative act. It cannot …
For many vulva owners struggling with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, a daily practice with dilators is often part of the healing journey… *If you’re asking yourself “What are dilators?”, you might first want to read about how dilating can help on your journey in healing vaginismus. But minty gum?! Let me back up …
Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …
Let’s admit it. Pads aren’t exactly comfortable. But for many vulva owners who experience vaginismus, they’re the most common option. And might be the case for you (as it was for me a few years ago), tampons are a bit too advanced and maybe NOT a possibility (yet)… And… Don’t get me started on the …
Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …
Life is jam-packed with emotions! You experience traumatic events in life, and your stores emotions and memories from them within yourself… These trapped emotions impact you in VERY real ways years after the initial trauma. That phenomenon is at the crux of vaginismus. After your brain creates an association of penetration to pain, you’re left …
How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it? Pretty immediately right? I mean, it SCREAMS for attention. If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right? Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner …
I recall very clearly that especially at the beginning of my vaginismus dfiays, my dilating practice was as pleasant as nails dragging along a chalk board. I made MANY mistakes. I now help vulva owners avoid my mistakes (and my misery). Just to name a few… I didn’t follow the golden rule of “avoid pain …
I remember the first time I tried to use a tampon at 14. I couldn’t get one into my vagina. After many attempts and finally being able to get a tampon ‘up there’ it felt as if my insides were on fire. Tampons 1, my vagina 0. I had friends who used tampons and none …
Pissed off and in pain. That’s the slogan of the PMS chronicles. Have you found yourself debilitated by the pain of pre-menstrual cramps? Unable to go about your day as you planned, because your body is just not co-operating? This lack of co-operation once a month can be quite frustrating, especially when your body is …