How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it?
Pretty immediately right?
I mean, it SCREAMS for attention.
If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right?
Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner for one…
Well, just like with any other part of our body that experiences tension and pain due the pressures of life…
Our pelvic floor can get painful muscle spasms too! (And if you’re experiencing vaginismus, you know ALL about that, I’m sure…)
But there’s something about that part of the body that’s different!
Kinks in the vagina are hard to notice!
And when they’re not addressed in a timely manner, the spasm spread and create a sense of tightness in the surrounding area.
When penetration is either painful all around (sometimes like a burning or stabbing sensation), or you notice one particular area of your pelvic floor muscles is painful, you may have kinks that need to be massaged and loosened.
These are called trigger points and the practice of relieving that tightness or pressure is called trigger point release.
Although it can be uncomfortable in the moment, the results can be absolutely heavenly!
It can create an immediate sense of relaxation, like your vagina got a spa day.
During the core of my vaginismus journey, when I really was in the deepest trenches of the tightness, I didn’t know about trigger point release…
I only used this technique during the end of my journey and experienced the magic and relief of this internal pelvic floor massage.
I STRONGLY encourage you to utilize this technique independently, or along side your dilating practice, so you can experience the UNREAL benefits sooner than I did.
So how do you do it?
Trigger point release is typically done with a special tool separate from the dilators you may be using.
And your fingers can be sufficient for the shallow points within reach, but your fingers won’t be able to get to the deeper areas.
An appropriate tool is an S-shaped wand – it makes it easier to reach deeper trigger points because of its curved shape.
Typically, you can start to relax your trigger points at the end of your dilating practice using an S-shaped wand only once you can insert at least the second size dilator.
First, find which points are tender by using your wand to gently press and release as you move clockwise or counter- clockwise along your inner vaginal wall.
When you come across a painful spot, apply only enough pressure to that point, as though you’re testing a tomato for ripeness.
Gently, not like this…
Hold the pressure there while moving your knee towards and away from the surface you’re laying on until the trigger point stops hurting. Then, stop the movement, release the pressure and move to another area.
Continue finding spots that are tender, along both the shallow and deep areas of your inner vaginal wall.
To do trigger point release, a great S-shaped wand you can use include is the Pelvic Wand by Intimate Rose.
I came across Dr. Amanda, a Pelvic Floor Specialist and President at Intimate Rose, who entered this field after a life-changing personal accident.
She was already a paediatric neurology specialist when the downfall of her life (literally jumping into the water) had her shift gears completely.
During her own healing of her pelvic floor, she thought the tools on the market were lacking, so she helped create a pelvic wand that she would feel comfortable using herself.
It looks like this!
This is what I have to report about the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand:
This is the most important attribute to look for, as you want to make sure it allows you to reach both the shallow parts of your pelvic floor muscles and the ones that are situated deeper in your vagina.
Out of all of the wands I’ve come across, the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand has the best shape as its wide curves really help you get to the deepest and most hard to reach muscles.
And believe me, you don’t want to have to strain yourself to make sure you hit the spot. That only adds more tension and pressure in your body, exactly what you’re trying to avoid!
As well, each end of this pelvic wand serves its own purpose.
The wider end is designed to be used vaginally, and the narrow end is specifically for use rectally, or for shallow muscles vaginally.
I haven’t used the pelvic wand rectally, but did find that the narrow end was more comfortable for those shallow muscles in the vagina.
So I give the design of this wand 2 thumbs up!
You can also get the newer version of the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand which also has 10 different vibration frequencies and is re-chargeable.
Why is vibration helpful in this practice, you ask?
Vibration helps to improve circulation and relax the pelvic floor muscles for maximum healing and pain relief.
Studies show that vibration assists not only in reducing pain but improving blood flow in muscles, which is beneficial in healing and restoring muscle function.
So this feature may help speed up your process!
Pretty sweet, right?
I personally haven’t tried the vibrating pelvic wand, so I can’t share my findings on how it compares with its non-vibrating counterpart.
It is pretty though – it comes in a teal colour.
This is the second most important attribute.
The Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand is made from a smooth, body safe, medical grade silicone that’s 100% BPA free.
This is what you should be looking for.
And it’s not plastic which, as I wrote about here, is less than comfortable!
Feel of Material (Touch)
The 2 types of feel of silicone products are a matte-like feel and a glossy-like feel.
The Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand has a matte-like feel of the silicone, which makes it silky smooth and soft to the touch. When you run your fingers along the surface, it’s as though you’re touching a silk-like texture. The wand can slip around your palm and fingers effortlessly.
I inquired with Dr. Amanda and she shared that the matte-like finish of all Intimate Rose products was specifically used to protect delicate skin and sensitive scar tissue in the perineum and inside the vagina.
Ease of Cleaning
I find this pelvic wand is easy to clean.
When it comes to cleaning, it’s important to clean and dry any intimate tool or toy thoroughly, as bacteria CAN grow on damp surfaces.
In your drying, I urge you to pay special attention to any contours in the silicone, like the Intimate Rose logo, to make sure the entire surface is dry before you store the wand away.
Place of Manufacturing
The Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand was designed in the USA and manufactured elsewhere.
The pelvic wand comes with a dark purple velvet pouch to store it in!
Price (in USD)
The standard Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand is $30 and the vibrating one is $60.
Because I wish I knew about this product since the start of my vaginismus journey, I partnered with Dr. Amanda to spread the word about it AND get you a discount!
By clicking here, you’ll automatically get a $5 discount from any product you purchase from them. Also, you can use the code KATRIN at checkout to get the $5 discount.
What do you think about trigger point release?
Please comment below with your thoughts, questions or objections about anything I shared!
As part of the Pain Free and Intimate Recipe, I’ve put together video guidance on EXACTLY how to do trigger point release.
Also, I want to congratulate you for committing to your healing journey by doing your research and reading this!
Starting is the hardest step and that means you’re well on your path to healing! Celebrate that fact today… Book a nice relaxing massage maybe? (That is my go-to!)
If you haven’t gotten your hands on this goodie yet, get “11 Tips From Vulva Owners: What Helped Them Overcome Vaginismus”.
To your pelvic floor relief!
– Katrin, with Love