Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
If you’re dealing with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, choosing the right lubricant is even MORE important than the right set of dilators. When it comes to your dilating practice, it’s highly recommended to put a liberal amount of lube on the dilator before you attempt to insert it. And keep in mind, an …
Unlike penis-owners, vagina-owners face a really significant downside. See, a man… Literally HOLDS his penis to pee standing up right. He can easily WATCH his penis during self-pleasure if he chooses to. Heck, he even touches it regularly through the day to adjust. At least in the media, men are portrayed comparing their junk in …
Most dilators sets are PRETTY pricey! A wonderful human recently commented on a post of mine on my Instagram: “I wish I was able to afford dilators… I wish dilators were more accessible and less of a huge privilege.” Agreed. And if that’s you, I’m sorry they’re not in your budget right now. So are …
After working through vaginismus and finally being able to achieve PAIN-FREE penetration.. Let’s talk about turning pain-free into PLEASURABLE! If penetration wasn’t going to be pleasurable… The goal ideally is to experience PLEASURE in a sexual experience, both externally and internally. How so? Partly by exploring the erogenous zones inside the vagina! One of the …
Do you feel that burning… And the pain? What IF your lubricant actually helped your muscles relax and even soothed the stabbing sensation you feel? You see, lubricant to a set of dilators is like the cheese to a good bowl of macaroni. You can’t get enough of it. *If you’re asking yourself “What are …
You might not the type to just go out and buy a vibrator… I know I wasn’t. I was a bit curious about vibrators, but not enough to trek to a sex store for one or buy it online either. A part of me thought I just SHOULDN’T indulge in this sexual pleasure, especially with …
At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …
Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …
For many vulva owners struggling with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, a daily practice with dilators is often part of the healing journey… *If you’re asking yourself “What are dilators?”, you might first want to read about how dilating can help on your journey in healing vaginismus. But minty gum?! Let me back up …
Life is jam-packed with emotions! You experience traumatic events in life, and your stores emotions and memories from them within yourself… These trapped emotions impact you in VERY real ways years after the initial trauma. That phenomenon is at the crux of vaginismus. After your brain creates an association of penetration to pain, you’re left …