Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Vaginismus is a painful body response causing an involuntary constriction of the muscles of the vagina, making sex painful. Given the taboo on this subject, many women suffer in silence. Discovering that I had vaginismus I wouldn’t have thought of giving up the comfort of sanitary napkins until I learned the benefits of tampons and …
What’s ironic is that for many of us… The very thing that has kept us safe in the world is the thing we NEED to set aside in order to enjoy penetrative sex. That’s right. We’ve grown up in the world where having control over our external circumstances is what has kept us SAFE. That …
Here we are living in a society where sex, drugs and rock and roll are easily accessible. To indulge in pleasurable activities you can Spotify a bit of Rock ‘n roll, just have a stroll in Amsterdam to get stoned and I’ve lost count of the amount of services or apps that we can use when you have an itch …
“Have a glass of wine to loosen yourself up a bit?” These words were said to me by a doctor a few weeks before I turned 30. I’d been sexually active for 14 years and the truth is that sex was a mystery to me. I had had sex. Lots of sex. But for the …
Love life. Societal conditioning has shaped us to think sex as soon as we hear ‘love life’. Similarly, as soon as we hear sex, we think penetrative sex – that’s how we’ve understood it as a result of the media and our sex education (the little bit we received). But… Sex is SO much more …
Many thanks to Victor Yrigoyen for the illustrations. Check out his website and Instagram. “For many, the psychological impact of vaginismus can be even more agonizing than the physical pain. The stigma of “virginity,” combined with the lacking mention of vaginismus in public dialogue, society’s insistence that “men need sex,” and the social pressure on women to have …
I have to admit… I felt shame related to my sexuality pretty much my entire life ever since I could understand the concept. That’s why I rarely explored my own body and capacity for pleasure. And when I did, I felt grossed out to use my own fingers to touch my vulva… So I avoided …
When I was in primary school, around 10 years old we started to do some sex education lessons… In the first of these they showed us a cartoon video, in the video it showed a diagram of female anatomy and then the insertion of a tampon and how this looks from the inside. I remember …
Unlike penis-owners, vagina-owners face a really significant downside. See, a man… Literally HOLDS his penis to pee standing up right. He can easily WATCH his penis during self-pleasure if he chooses to. Heck, he even touches it regularly through the day to adjust. At least in the media, men are portrayed comparing their junk in …
5 years ago, if I watched this video, I would have anger pulsing and flowing through me. 😡 Anger blanketed towards our societal experiences as humans in the world. The expectations that are thrown at both vulva and penis owners (and especially vulva owners as ‘sex symbols’) – expectations of who we SHOULD be in our lives. …