Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
I’m a rather sensitive person that soaks up information like a sponge, being influenced (and confused) by different attitudes and opinions. I often do not trust my own judgment… Driven by the desire to fit in and to do everything right. That’s why all the books I read, all the stereotypical Hollywood movies I watched …
My experience with tampons started rather late! Growing up, I knew there were such things as tampons but since my mum never used them, when I started my period at 10, I was introduced to disposable pads and that was that. Somehow, I got the understanding that inserting anything ‘up there’ was breaking your virginity …
When we first discovered that penetrative sex wasn’t working (the penis just couldn’t go in) I was really distressed. I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me. It didn’t help that our living circumstances at the time was very difficult, we were living with parents and didn’t have our own space (to make it worse, …
When I think about what events or situation in my childhood may have affected the beginning of my vaginismus in my subconscious, a few memories come to mind. Since I was 12 years old, I often attended gynaecology appointments. I was treated for frequent gynaecological infections due to Synechia Vulvae. Infections were treated with antibiotic …
My vaginismus journey began in my early twenties when I attempted to put a tampon in for the first time. Growing up I never minded using pads during my period, even though it sucked whenever I wanted to go swimming and my friends swore by tampons. I think the thought of inserting something into my …
Hello me, I know life feels crazy right now, and you are totally overwhelmed with trying to understand what is wrong with your body. You feel like no one understands and the loneliness is overpowering. The sexual difficulty feels so difficult to talk about and you don’t even have the words to describe it. What’s …
I clearly remember… As I went deeper and deeper down the slippery slope of pain, my desire for sexual acts diminished. I mean of course it would! Penetrative sex was at first impossible for me. When I tried to force it and push through the initial physical barrier, it became incredibly painful. Think a freshly …
You’ve probably read plenty about the vulva and vagina in the process of overcoming vaginismus… The ancient sex wisdom of Taoism confirms the intricate connection between the genitals and optimal functions of other organs and glands in the body. Creating harmony in these sacred areas of your body really is important in relieving tension and …
Watch Tightly Wound, a film by Shelby Hadden and Sebastian Bisbal. Writing and making the film did force me to re-live some of my experiences, but the process of working with them and re-telling them and making something beautiful was incredibly healing. – Shelby Hadden, Writer/Director/Producer Shelby’s vaginismus story I realized something was wrong when I …
You experienced a traumatic event when it comes to sexuality… And now, you find yourself being triggered in one way or another. You might remember snippets of these memories, occasionally re-experience the trauma in its entirety, and live with various of its effects on your life. You might feel helpless sometimes, like is life happening …