Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …
Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …
Life is jam-packed with emotions! You experience traumatic events in life, and your stores emotions and memories from them within yourself… These trapped emotions impact you in VERY real ways years after the initial trauma. That phenomenon is at the crux of vaginismus. After your brain creates an association of penetration to pain, you’re left …
How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it? Pretty immediately right? I mean, it SCREAMS for attention. If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right? Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner …
The day I discovered kegel balls was an exciting one! When I found this tool at a sex store I visited, the store clerk explained that doing certain exercises, or even just walking around with the ball inside your vagina actually help strengthen and tone your vaginal pelvic floor muscles. I also learned that this …
My own experience with vaginismus inspired me to write Debbie Does Dilators. – Savannah Magruder, Writer/Director, award-winning filmmaker Watch the film here! And below is Savannah’s personal story and inside scoop about the film… After several years of struggling with the condition – enduring excruciatingly painful sex, being patronized and misdiagnosed by dismissive doctors, and …
I’m laying on my bed with a wand resting in my vagina. I grit my teeth and find myself holding my breath… Then I remember to breathe through the discomfort and to allow my body to relax. “This will be so worth it”, I think. I already know that this technique has given me incredible …
You’re on the vaginismus journey. You’ve been through thick and thin. You’ve decided to take action and undergo the necessary emotional healing and physical therapy in order to work up to having penetrative sex. And you’ve made progress! You’ve been able to gain partial control of your pelvic floor muscles and achieve some penetration. In …
It was a Saturday afternoon. My best friend and I were walking up one of the busy streets of downtown Toronto, heading to a special kind of studio. We had been to a class like this once before, and left with some bruises on our legs and arms. And that was just the beginner class. …
One day, my parents came home with a dark grey bag with a pink heart on it. It was a pivotal-event in my life… In a “Shh, no one else needs to know”-kind of way, they said they bought something for me. I was confused… I hadn’t expected that literally a day after I shared …