From The Rabbit To The PIV Sex

I’ve always been so curious about rabbit toys. Experiencing vaginismus makes finding a rabbit toy even harder. I could never find a rabbit toy on the market that was small enough for my vagina to accommodate. After consulting with Katrin, we found one of the smaller options out there on Betty’s Toy Box. Admittedly still …

The Common Responses – The Apathetic, The Deserter, And The Mind Opener

Communication is like a muscle… So divulging my sexy little secret is a strenuous workout, or at least it was at first. For the purposes of this conversation, I will be talking about cisgendered straight men. This is because people I have had sex with in the queer community have not been phased by my …

To Divulge Or Not To Divulge, That Is The Question

When I was first diagnosed with vaginismus I was in a relationship with a loving cis-gendered male partner. He was supportive and helped me work through a lot. We were together for two years and got very creative in the bedroom! When that relationship ended, (due to distance) I feared I would never find anyone …

Hookup Culture – How Do I Fit In, Or Not!?

Hookup culture! What a wild ride it’s been. There are aspects that I struggle with, in the most general sense, adding vaginismus to the mix only makes it more complicated. On the other hand, I am a singleton who wants to have a sex life. So how have I embraced this contradiction? Hookup culture is …