Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
I’m a rather sensitive person that soaks up information like a sponge, being influenced (and confused) by different attitudes and opinions. I often do not trust my own judgment… Driven by the desire to fit in and to do everything right. That’s why all the books I read, all the stereotypical Hollywood movies I watched …
My experience with tampons started rather late! Growing up, I knew there were such things as tampons but since my mum never used them, when I started my period at 10, I was introduced to disposable pads and that was that. Somehow, I got the understanding that inserting anything ‘up there’ was breaking your virginity …
When we first discovered that penetrative sex wasn’t working (the penis just couldn’t go in) I was really distressed. I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me. It didn’t help that our living circumstances at the time was very difficult, we were living with parents and didn’t have our own space (to make it worse, …
First of all, don’t get me wrong… I have loving and supportive parents. Neither do I want to cast a bad light on my father nor depict my childhood as absolutely horrible. Yet, while my mother used to be the empathetic, emotional part of the two, my father was (and mostly is) the rational, strict …
I was always afraid of penetrative sex, from the time my mother explained it to me at 7 onward… But when I was 12 I had to get my first pelvic exam to try to figure out why I was having such long periods. The exam was excruciating as I was, of course, on a …
When I think about what events or situation in my childhood may have affected the beginning of my vaginismus in my subconscious, a few memories come to mind. Since I was 12 years old, I often attended gynaecology appointments. I was treated for frequent gynaecological infections due to Synechia Vulvae. Infections were treated with antibiotic …
My vaginismus journey began in my early twenties when I attempted to put a tampon in for the first time. Growing up I never minded using pads during my period, even though it sucked whenever I wanted to go swimming and my friends swore by tampons. I think the thought of inserting something into my …
Hello me, I know life feels crazy right now, and you are totally overwhelmed with trying to understand what is wrong with your body. You feel like no one understands and the loneliness is overpowering. The sexual difficulty feels so difficult to talk about and you don’t even have the words to describe it. What’s …
A lot of women who have vaginismus experience the symptoms long before finding out there is a special term for this condition, or as Katrin encourages us to call it, this body response. You might have heard the term in your 20s for the first time. You may have had anywhere from zero to multiple …
Every Tuesday, I’d head to a gym filled with young athletes and senior citizens strengthening and stretching their joints. I’d go into a small room, take off my pants, and lay back on a bed. Then I would get fingered. Surprisingly, this is not some new fitness trend or subscription service offered by Goop. This is …