My Struggle To Overcome Vaginismus – Dian’s Story

After dating for 9 years, I finally married in November 2017, the happiest moment in my life. Became a King and Queen in a day. The night after the wedding reception was supposed to be the beginning of my sexual life, but instead was the moment I felt something was wrong with my body. But …

Religious Shaming, The Influence Of Media And Our Societal Conditioning: Jana’s Story

I’m a rather sensitive person that soaks up information like a sponge, being influenced (and confused) by different attitudes and opinions. I often do not trust my own judgment… Driven by the desire to fit in and to do everything right. That’s why all the books I read, all the stereotypical Hollywood movies I watched …

Journey To Pleasurable Penetrative Sex: Anna’s Story

I was 20 years old when I lost my virginity. I believed in the notion that sex, at first for women, will be uncomfortable because our bodies have to get used to it. Plus, I’m Asian, so there is a misunderstanding that Asian women have tight vaginas so it might take a little bit longer …

Body Image Issues, Brutal Family Pressures And Suppressed Trauma: Rachel’s Vaginismus Story

It’s been two years since the word, “vaginismus” was thrown at me. Two years of agony, two years of sadness, two years of depression, two years of self loathing, two years of physical pain, two years of self-neglect, two years of complete and utter loneliness.  I was in bed when it happened – I had …

Do It For You, Not For Anyone Else: Susana’s Story

The first time I’ve heard the word vaginismus I was 35 years old and I was not able to practice intercourse. By then, I was having a nice life in Barcelona, where I am from, living with my ex-boyfriend, enjoying my family and friends and with an exciting role in a womenswear fashion retail company. …