Katrin with Love
Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
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Your Transformation With Me By Your Side
Oh the magic that can happen during 4 months together
I wish I had someone to call back in the day. Someone who would ACTUALLY understand.

I want to be that person for you.

I'd love to guide you through the emotional and physical healing journeys and help you with any challenges along the way.

We'll have 8 one-hour video calls together (one call every 2 weeks) and I'll be there for you with support over email WHENEVER you need it. 

In between calls, I'll provide a series of home play activities to help you make consistent steps forward on the journey past pain and to PLEASURE.

You'll also get a digital planner customized to your becoming pain free and intimate - so you can keep track of your progress, stay motivated and celebrate your wins!

Armed with our 8 bi-weekly calls, anytime email support, home play activities and your very own digital planner...

You'll be BEST equipped to put vaginismus in your past! For good!
Value: Priceless
This 1-on-1 experience is adjustable in structure to fit your budget
I'm ready to start! Why a consultation?
Your comfort and trust are my top priority, especially with this intimate topic.

I'd love to get to know you and answer your questions first - so we can know with absolute certainty if we're a good fit.

And if it doesn't look like we're a good fit, I can guide you to another resource that will be of help in your particular situation.
The whole journey was almost 2.5 years with 2.4 years of doing my own research. I made some mistakes, wasn’t sure what to do... But with one month of proper guidance with Katrin I overcame my vaginismus within a MONTH!
I am someone who has never used a tampon or had any vaginal checkups before my marriage. 

I got married in 2017 and had a very painful experience when I and my husband tried for PIV sex for the first time. It was very painful during penetration and penetration was almost impossible. I told my mom about this experience and she told me the sex is painful for the first time. And this painful experience had a great impact on me... 

At that point in time I never really know what vaginismus was! I found out about vaginismus when I was randomly searching for the reason for painful sex. But I barely thought that I could have vaginismus. We tried for PIV sex a few more times during our first year of marriage and penetration was impossible every time. 

I cursed myself for not being like every other regular woman who enjoys sex and finds it’s a cakewalk for them. I started going to grad school in 2018 and my husband was in a different city with his job. So, we never really spoke about PIV sex for the next year. After my graduation, I started to stay with my husband and by that time we knew it was really an issue and I need a doctor visit. So, I made an appointment with gynaecologist and explained her my situation, she gave me the dumbest answers like I am too young to take up sex (my inner voice, SERIOUSLY, I am 26 years old) and she suggested some numbing creams, suggested me to take wine and also said there will be chances that I need to go with some SURGERY. 

I was all over the place, started crying and was asking my husband to leave me as I am not any worthy to have him. He has been supportive during that phase and told me if I cannot deal with PIV sex, he is okay to not have PIV sex for his life. 

We then visited a psychiatrist to see if it's some kind of psychological problem. By that time, I researched a lot about vaginismus and some pelvic exercises. I asked her about pelvic exercises, and she said these exercises won’t work for me. I felt more depressed after that visit. My husband and I thought of using dilators, so I got the first 3 sizes of dilators and a vibrator. For almost a week we did the dilating practice and I was able to make it up to 3rd dilator and after which it was again very painful to insert the 4th one. 

I again gave up for almost a year and then I found this page PAIN FREE AND INTIMATE. I was a silent follower of this page for almost a month and then messaged Katrin with few questions and then set up a one to one session with her on January 5th 2020. I told her my situation and how I am not able to go upsize in dilating and she suggested me the pelvic wand and believe me it worked like magic. 

She also told me about the intimate recipe, I went ahead and invested in The Pain Free and Intimate Recipe and implemented the dilating guidance during my dilating practices. I did my dilating practice every day and was able to upsize to 5th dilator within 20 days! I then realized I was contracting my hip muscle which is the reason for impossible penetration and started to do stretching exercises and breathing practices from the intimate recipe and was able a take my hip muscle under my control.

After dilating with 5th dilator for a week, I wanted to give it a try for PIV sex and I followed my daily practice of doing some massage with the pelvic wand, dilate with 4th dilator and 5th dilator and PIV sex with my husband. On the very first try, I was able to have complete penetration which is a great achievement for me and after the 3rd try, we had complete PIV sex!!

The whole journey was almost 2.5 years with 2.4 years of doing my own research. I made some mistakes, wasn’t sure what to do... But with one month of proper guidance with KATRIN I overcame my vaginismus within a MONTH! 

THANK YOU VERY MUCH KATRIN for your help and suggestions. This means a lot to me. Apart from my partner, I wasn’t able to discuss this with anyone until I found you.

This was a long story to read but I hope it made you feel nothing is impossible and anyone can overcome this fear with proper guidance and commitment!

- Sowmya (27 years old, Frankfort, USA)
Your life has been a minefield...

One explosion after another... 

Some days, you lay in bed for hours running through it all in your head - lost in the darkness of your thoughts.

Asking yourself "WHYYY ME *insert swear words here*?!". 

"What did I do wrong?"

For me...
It seemed like everyone around me was living their best life, and here I was... STUCK. CONFUSED.

It just wasn’t FAIR! In the beginning, I was sad...

Then angry.

I didn’t feel like I deserved the pain at first.

Later, my inner conversation included, "What if I DO deserve to be miserable?” I started by looking for answers all over the place.

Then I began wondering whether my pain really WAS in my head, like my doctor alluded to.

I don’t know if you’ll believe me, but I hope you do...

Your pain is NOT in your head.

It’s real.

And what’s ALSO real is that you CAN get through vaginismus.  Many brave vulva owners like you have done it. The path ahead of you has already been walked!
Now, you can have a choice - to follow in the footsteps of others.. or to remain where you are.

And no one choice is superior than the other. 

I believe that you will take action only when you're ready. And whenever you are ready is the PERFECT time for you.

If and when you feel up for the journey forward, I want you to know that there are people who understand.

Unfortunately your loving family and friends can't relate to you fully... 

They just haven’t experienced the excruciating pain, both physical and emotional! But there ARE people who understand.

So the first step is simply to explore what the path forward has looked like for others. 

And for that, I’m here to share my story.

Or just serve as an ear to listen to yours, IF you'd like to share.
I would absolutely love to help you overcome vaginismus, like I did. 

So you can melt into the unconstrained possibilities of intimacy...

Cuddle after penetrative sex, with tears of JOY in your eyes!

And an overwhelming sense of peace.

So you can experience the pleasure that you WANT.

So you get to CHOOSE whether you have kids and how to conceive.

I’d love to help you get that choice back. 

That confidence.

Your true self.

So you can live your life according to your rules.

You have SO much life ahead of you! 

You are worthy of love!
You are worthy of everything that YOU desire - no limitations.

One day...

When you look back at all of this, it will seem like a distant memory. 

And you will be so proud of yourself that you stuck through the journey for long enough to come out on the other side!

I’m not saying it will be easy. 

I’m saying I know you’re capable.

So all that’s left for you to decide is if you’re willing!

Allow me to be your personal guide in your journey.
My Pain Free and Intimate Guarantee
My commitment to you is to provide immense value in our time together. 

If you're not totally satisfied with what you got for ANY reason, please send me an email at hello@katrinwithlove.com within 30 days of your investment. You'll get a full and courteous refund right away, no questions asked.
Thank you Katrin from the bottom of my heart for giving me the hope and strength to believe in myself, to stay patient and to truly listen to my body!
I always had the feeling that I am late in my life. 

I was one of the last girls who got their period, my body started to grow when everybody else was already dressed up "girly" and sexy. I had the impression that I was quite invisible for the majority of boys. My school classes were most of the time girls-only and with my hobbies (riding and dancing) I also hadn‘t much contact with boys in my free time. 

So the subject of intercourse was never current for me. I never used tampons because I didn‘t like the feeling and to be honest wasn‘t able to insert them. 

When I got my first boyfriend in the beginning of this year, of course the topic intimacy suddenly appeared. I really enjoyed my first experiences but was also a little overwhelmed. He had already had two relationships and of course intercourse - the majority of people around me weren’t virgins anymore and I felt the pressure to "finally" do it too. Even some of my closer people couldn‘t understand why I was waiting so long and why I didn‘t "just do it", didn‘t I love him? Or didn‘t he desire me? 

But I had the feeling that my body "closed" even with just the thought about sex. I had so much fear of pain and that it would not be possible to have penetrative sex in general. 

My personal early attempts to insert a finger alone at home have also been a... longer journey. First, it was nearly impossible, but with a lot of patience it worked but was not pleasurable at all - it sometimes felt so tight that I had the feeling a little knife entered me (a feeling which didn't encourage or increase my wish for sex of course). 

I was quite desperate, nobody seemed to have these problems. My closest friends listened to me and tried to encourage me, but didn‘t really understand and also didn‘t know how to help me. I felt like a weirdo. Sometimes I doubt myself: Was I just too "hysteric"?

I talked to my boyfriend about my fears and I am so grateful that he is supportive and patient. He didn’t put pressure on me and I could totally go at my speed. But inside of me my inner voice was asking: "Am I worth for him? How long will he wait and stay patient? What, if I can’t handle the problem fast enough, and his sex drive is so unsatisfied... Will he leave me? Will I lose my sex drive (which was luckily still there) when I have several frustrating experiences? Will he lose his desire for me when he must always "stop" himself? Am I ever able to have other relationships?"

I realized I couldn’t handle all these thoughts alone anymore and I did long research on the internet. But the result was, to be honest, not very satisfying. I was lucky when vaginismus was at least mentioned in some medical pages, but most of the articles were really brief and only described the symptoms and no help.

On Instagram I finally found some blogs where people with vaginismus told their stories. @pain.free.and.intimate was the page which I liked the most. Some of the other pages, to be honest, increased my fear because they were struggling, too and their description of their negative and fearful emotions in this vaginismus journey or posts about their unsuccessful attempts reminded me of my biggest fears.

Katrin, who has already successfully overcome vaginismus, gave me hope and reminded me with her posts, that with work on myself, everything is possible. She also talks about negative experiences, but in a more optimistic way. She emphasizes the aspect of emotional healing and presents plenty of physical AND psychical methods to deal with vaginismus that I heard for the first time and found very interesting. 

I decided to write her a direct message. She replied only a few hours later and really took so much time to answer all my questions, gave my plenty of advice, motivated me and celebrated my little successes. I was so glad to finally talk to someone who truly understands and had an open ear, didn't judge me or gave me the feeling to overreact. 

During our chatting, I began to think about potential reasons why I could have vaginismus and how I can cope with it. When I visited my gynaecologist, I checked that there aren’t any anatomical issues (yeah great, but I didn‘t get any other suggestions than "just relaaax your pelvic floor, that‘s all").
 
I found out that my mental blockades have to be solved - in my daily life I am a very ambitious person, who feels safer when I have everything under my control. I often put myself under pressure (without wanting it), compare myself to others and sometimes have the feeling of not being enough. I also often have the expectation that I must make everything as perfect as I can, I wanted to be good in bed and didn’t want to disappoint my partner. 

So I began to listen more to my body. 

When do I get tense and why? Is it really necessary that I stress myself for so many little things? I started to work on my mindset, to be more generous to myself and to be okay with not doing everything perfectly. I recognized that I benefit extremely from relaxation techniques or just stretching exercises. I take the time for this now regularly - for example before I go to bed or also sometimes during the day, I have the feeling that it clears my mind and connects me more with my body (the signals of which I mostly ignored before because I was more focused on other things). Additionally, breathing deeply supported this process, too. 

Another fear was that I was very afraid of getting pregnant so I guess that I unconsciously associated my partners penis with danger and wanted to protect myself by "closing" my vagina. I solved this problem by taking birth control plus using condoms (even though we were just cuddling and kissing naked, but this helped me learn to feel safe and comfortable being this close to my partner). 

I am very happy that I recognized my "problem" so early, took it seriously and started to work on it, so I didn‘t rush and make any negative experiences with unsuccessful attempts with my partner and worsen the circle of fear and pain. I wanted to prepare myself until I feel ready. I learned to enjoy being intimate with my partner (a completely new experience for me) and feeling trust and also pleasure without having penetrative sex. 

At home, I practiced with my finger and got to know my body better, explored where is what, inside my vagina haha. And there was progress! I got more and more used to finding the right angle for inserting a finger and felt more familiar with my body. After a while, I also experienced a kind of pleasure and tried to carefully guide my partners finger. 

But there were moments of frustration too, when everything suddenly felt tighter and that all progress I had made was gone. It was really hard for me to stay calm, I worried a lot and there where many tears on my pillow... But I said to myself that I have to give my body time, some days are better and others don‘t, I have to trust my body that it will be possible some day, that I mustn‘t work against my body but with it. I also found the method of trigger point release very helpful. I didn‘t use dilators, only my fingers, but I planned probably to buy some soon. 

Aaaand....

Yesterday, it happened! I had my first time PIV!! 

I didn‘t plan it (which was good I think), I just had the feeling in the moment that we could try it now. It didn‘t work the first attempt, but my partner calmed me and we just tried it after a while again, very slowly and carefully. And it went in easier than I expected! 

I was so proud and happy. I think I will still need time to fully relax, get used to it and have more varied penetrative sex, but inserting the penis was such a big step for me and I am so so happy that I was patient enough to wait for the right moment and that I listened to my body and thought "You can do it".

Vaginismus told me lessons of self-doubt, pain, frustration and desperation. But on the other side, it showed me to NOT stand my inner tension, my overthinking, my fears, but to change my behaviour.

I profited not only in my intimate but also in my personal life that I worked on myself and faced the problems. I realized that the most important thing is to love myself, to be in peace with myself and my body and to do it for me, and not because of the expectations of others. I learnt to recognize when tension or emotional stress is starting to rise in my body so I can already take steps in the beginning to prevent it from getting worse.

Thank you Katrin from the bottom of my heart for giving me the hope and strength to believe in myself, to stay patient and to truly listen to my body!

- Franka (20 years old, Cologne, Germany)
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