Katrin with Love
Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Rekindling Intimate Connection
Finding Safety In Pleasure With Yourself And Others
Your relationship with pleasure, re-freshed
Whether you're partnered or not, it's crucial to find safety in intimacy, rekindle your love for your body, explore your sexual desires, and be able to openly communicate your preferences and boundaries.

This is a collection of exercises to help you approach intimacy in an intentional way that prioritizes each dynamic of giving and receiving touch. 

So that you are more present in your body versus being distracted by the mind. So that you discover your true sexual desires free of shame or the tendency to please others. And so your authentic sexual self feels honoured and heard.
Value: Absolutely Priceless
Rekindling Intimate Connection is $97
I finally had pain free sex!
I shared my journey with you about vaginismus not too long ago…

Well, I just wanted to say that I finally had pain free sex!

Just about a month ago it was so hard and painful to put a tampon in and I felt unworthy afterwards. I felt like I was less and I felt like giving up at first… 

I started reading your blogs and your advice about vaginismus and on how to use dilators. I paid attention to what my body needs… I started to love my body more. To connect to myself and love myself more than ever before.

I learned I have the ability to control my mind and how I feel. Whenever I used my dilators, I felt for the trigger points and I added a little pressure (not a lot though) to train my body and brain to not be afraid anymore. 

When my partner and I decided to do it again since the first time we tried and it was not successful, I was scared that it would be the same all over again. This time, I did feel a little bit pressure and I kept breathing in and out before we tried it and next thing I know, we did it!

I cried tears of joy because I never thought it would happen! And since, I’ve been doing amazing. 

I just wanted to say thank you so much for making a platform and for not making me feel alone. Because of you, I was able to conquer and defeat vaginismus! You’re such an inspiration to me and to young women who experience vaginismus…

I kind of have strict parents who raised me with “don’t have sex” and I couldn’t tell them about it… However, it felt beyond relieving to tell you because you’re just so inspiring!

The whole aspect of sex is still new to me but it makes me happy knowing you’re right there with me through my journey! I seriously can’t thank you enough. Without the information you give and everything, I wouldn’t have known what to do.

For those struggling with vaginismus and feeling that you’re not enough, know that you can overcome this. It may take time, but it’s gonna be so worth it at the end.

- Maria (19 years old, Dallas, USA)
Let's Talk About What You Get...
Here is everything you'll get, all through online access.

You'll receive guidance for EACH of the topics listed below, in video format. Nothing in Rekindling Intimate Connection will need to be physically shipped to you.
Foundations Of Finding Safety First
Exploring Safety And Pleasure Through Touch

Want To Vs. Willing To
Exploring Pleasure
​​Giving Vs. Receiving

What Is Pleasure?

Finding Pleasure In Your Hands Game
Taking And Allowing
Taking And Allowing Dynamic

Taking And Allowing Game
Giving And Receiving
Giving And Receiving Dynamic

Giving And Receiving Game
Putting It All Together
The Wheel Of Consent

The 3 Minute Game Dynamic

The 3 Minute Game
Navigating Relationships To Self And Others
​​How To Rekindle Intimate Connection, Guided By A Surrogate Partner Therapist

Loving Who You See In The Mirror

Genital Pain In Relationships: A Man Found Out What Being Supportive Looks Like And Shares His Story

Inside The Mind Of Your Partner: Exclusive Interview With Mine
Wrapping Up
Celebrate Yourself!

What's Next?
Value: Absolutely Priceless
A real chance at a vaginismus free life is priceless. And if we had to put a price tag on it...
You get Rekindling Intimate Connection for just $97
You get Rekindling Intimate Connection for the one-time payment of $97! (Or if you prefer, 3 monthly payments of $37!)
Thank you Katrin from the bottom of my heart for giving me the hope and strength to believe in myself, to stay patient and to truly listen to my body!
I always had the feeling that I am late in my life. 

I was one of the last girls who got their period, my body started to grow when everybody else was already dressed up "girly" and sexy. I had the impression that I was quite invisible for the majority of boys. My school classes were most of the time girls-only and with my hobbies (riding and dancing) I also hadn‘t much contact with boys in my free time. 

So the subject of intercourse was never current for me. I never used tampons because I didn‘t like the feeling and to be honest wasn‘t able to insert them. 

When I got my first boyfriend in the beginning of this year, of course the topic intimacy suddenly appeared. I really enjoyed my first experiences but was also a little overwhelmed. He had already had two relationships and of course intercourse - the majority of people around me weren’t virgins anymore and I felt the pressure to "finally" do it too. Even some of my closer people couldn‘t understand why I was waiting so long and why I didn‘t "just do it", didn‘t I love him? Or didn‘t he desire me? 

But I had the feeling that my body "closed" even with just the thought about sex. I had so much fear of pain and that it would not be possible to have penetrative sex in general. 

My personal early attempts to insert a finger alone at home have also been a... longer journey. First, it was nearly impossible, but with a lot of patience it worked but was not pleasurable at all - it sometimes felt so tight that I had the feeling a little knife entered me (a feeling which didn't encourage or increase my wish for sex of course). 

I was quite desperate, nobody seemed to have these problems. My closest friends listened to me and tried to encourage me, but didn‘t really understand and also didn‘t know how to help me. I felt like a weirdo. Sometimes I doubt myself: Was I just too "hysteric"?

I talked to my boyfriend about my fears and I am so grateful that he is supportive and patient. He didn’t put pressure on me and I could totally go at my speed. But inside of me my inner voice was asking: "Am I worth for him? How long will he wait and stay patient? What, if I can’t handle the problem fast enough, and his sex drive is so unsatisfied... Will he leave me? Will I lose my sex drive (which was luckily still there) when I have several frustrating experiences? Will he lose his desire for me when he must always "stop" himself? Am I ever able to have other relationships?"

I realized I couldn’t handle all these thoughts alone anymore and I did long research on the internet. But the result was, to be honest, not very satisfying. I was lucky when vaginismus was at least mentioned in some medical pages, but most of the articles were really brief and only described the symptoms and no help.

On Instagram I finally found some blogs where people with vaginismus told their stories. @pain.free.and.intimate was the page which I liked the most. Some of the other pages, to be honest, increased my fear because they were struggling, too and their description of their negative and fearful emotions in this vaginismus journey or posts about their unsuccessful attempts reminded me of my biggest fears.

Katrin, who has already successfully overcome vaginismus, gave me hope and reminded me with her posts, that with work on myself, everything is possible. She also talks about negative experiences, but in a more optimistic way. She emphasizes the aspect of emotional healing and presents plenty of physical AND psychical methods to deal with vaginismus that I heard for the first time and found very interesting. 

I decided to write her a direct message. She replied only a few hours later and really took so much time to answer all my questions, gave my plenty of advice, motivated me and celebrated my little successes. I was so glad to finally talk to someone who truly understands and had an open ear, didn't judge me or gave me the feeling to overreact. 

During our chatting, I began to think about potential reasons why I could have vaginismus and how I can cope with it. When I visited my gynaecologist, I checked that there aren’t any anatomical issues (yeah great, but I didn‘t get any other suggestions than "just relaaax your pelvic floor, that‘s all").
 
I found out that my mental blockades have to be solved - in my daily life I am a very ambitious person, who feels safer when I have everything under my control. I often put myself under pressure (without wanting it), compare myself to others and sometimes have the feeling of not being enough. I also often have the expectation that I must make everything as perfect as I can, I wanted to be good in bed and didn’t want to disappoint my partner. 

So I began to listen more to my body. 

When do I get tense and why? Is it really necessary that I stress myself for so many little things? I started to work on my mindset, to be more generous to myself and to be okay with not doing everything perfectly. I recognized that I benefit extremely from relaxation techniques or just stretching exercises. I take the time for this now regularly - for example before I go to bed or also sometimes during the day, I have the feeling that it clears my mind and connects me more with my body (the signals of which I mostly ignored before because I was more focused on other things). Additionally, breathing deeply supported this process, too. 

Another fear was that I was very afraid of getting pregnant so I guess that I unconsciously associated my partners penis with danger and wanted to protect myself by "closing" my vagina. I solved this problem by taking birth control plus using condoms (even though we were just cuddling and kissing naked, but this helped me learn to feel safe and comfortable being this close to my partner). 

I am very happy that I recognized my "problem" so early, took it seriously and started to work on it, so I didn‘t rush and make any negative experiences with unsuccessful attempts with my partner and worsen the circle of fear and pain. I wanted to prepare myself until I feel ready. I learned to enjoy being intimate with my partner (a completely new experience for me) and feeling trust and also pleasure without having penetrative sex. 

At home, I practiced with my finger and got to know my body better, explored where is what, inside my vagina haha. And there was progress! I got more and more used to finding the right angle for inserting a finger and felt more familiar with my body. After a while, I also experienced a kind of pleasure and tried to carefully guide my partners finger. 

But there were moments of frustration too, when everything suddenly felt tighter and that all progress I had made was gone. It was really hard for me to stay calm, I worried a lot and there where many tears on my pillow... But I said to myself that I have to give my body time, some days are better and others don‘t, I have to trust my body that it will be possible some day, that I mustn‘t work against my body but with it. I also found the method of trigger point release very helpful. I didn‘t use dilators, only my fingers, but I planned probably to buy some soon. 

Aaaand....

Yesterday, it happened! I had my first time PIV!! 

I didn‘t plan it (which was good I think), I just had the feeling in the moment that we could try it now. It didn‘t work the first attempt, but my partner calmed me and we just tried it after a while again, very slowly and carefully. And it went in easier than I expected! 

I was so proud and happy. I think I will still need time to fully relax, get used to it and have more varied penetrative sex, but inserting the penis was such a big step for me and I am so so happy that I was patient enough to wait for the right moment and that I listened to my body and thought "You can do it".

Vaginismus told me lessons of self-doubt, pain, frustration and desperation. But on the other side, it showed me to NOT stand my inner tension, my overthinking, my fears, but to change my behaviour.

I profited not only in my intimate but also in my personal life that I worked on myself and faced the problems. I realized that the most important thing is to love myself, to be in peace with myself and my body and to do it for me, and not because of the expectations of others. I learnt to recognize when tension or emotional stress is starting to rise in my body so I can already take steps in the beginning to prevent it from getting worse.

Thank you Katrin from the bottom of my heart for giving me the hope and strength to believe in myself, to stay patient and to truly listen to my body!

- Franka (20 years old, Cologne, Germany)
You also get a loving support structure
Realizing that you weren't alone all along is an incredibly healing part of the journey. With a newfound vaginismus family, you'll feel supported, perhaps for the first time ever, by other amazing people who are on the path as you.

You'll also have my personal attention in the group, to answer your questions, share experiences and tips and celebrate your progress with you!

Your loving support structure is made up of your individualized digital planner, access to The Pain Free and Intimate Community Facebook group, as well as our Forums that live off-Facebook. 
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Rekindling Intimate Connection Along With Your Loving Support Structure is ONLY $97

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