Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Life is jam-packed with emotions! You experience traumatic events in life, and your stores emotions and memories from them within yourself… These trapped emotions impact you in VERY real ways years after the initial trauma. That phenomenon is at the crux of vaginismus. After your brain creates an association of penetration to pain, you’re left …
How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it? Pretty immediately right? I mean, it SCREAMS for attention. If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right? Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner …
I first heard about dilators at an appointment I really wasn’t looking forward to… You see, I was lucky enough to be able to have the opportunity to see a sex therapist, thanks to my boyfriend at the time’s parents (and their employment benefits). Although I can’t say my experience at the sex therapist’s office …
I recall very clearly that especially at the beginning of my vaginismus days, my dilating practice was as pleasant as nails dragging along a chalk board. I made MANY mistakes. I now help vulva owners avoid my mistakes (and my misery). Just to name a few… I didn’t follow the golden rule of “avoid pain …
I remember the first time I tried to use a tampon at 14. I couldn’t get one into my vagina. After many attempts and finally being able to get a tampon ‘up there’ it felt as if my insides were on fire. Tampons 1, my vagina 0. I had friends who used tampons and none …
Pissed off and in pain. That’s the slogan of the PMS chronicles. Have you found yourself debilitated by the pain of pre-menstrual cramps? Unable to go about your day as you planned, because your body is just not co-operating? This lack of co-operation once a month can be quite frustrating, especially when your body is …
My very first sexual penetration experience, at the age of 18 was a painful one. “Normal” as most would say for a first time. But that repeated itself the next time and the time after that… The pain was sharp and unexplainable. At first my body would just put up a wall, so I couldn’t …
Katrin, thank you for your sharing your informative book and all of your generous resources. I felt like everything was written specifically for me. I’ve done a lot of research on vaginismus and I’ve never found resources quite like yours and the resources I found previously were always written from doctors or “professionals” that never …
The day I discovered kegel balls was an exciting one! When I found this tool at a sex store I visited, the store clerk explained that doing certain exercises, or even just walking around with the ball inside your vagina actually help strengthen and tone your vaginal pelvic floor muscles. I also learned that this …
My own experience with vaginismus inspired me to write Debbie Does Dilators. – Savannah Magruder, Writer/Director, award-winning filmmaker Watch the film here! And below is Savannah’s personal story and inside scoop about the film… After several years of struggling with the condition – enduring excruciatingly painful sex, being patronized and misdiagnosed by dismissive doctors, and …