Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
I struggled with vaginismus for as long as I can remember and did not find out about the existence of this condition until a couple of years ago. Growing up in a very religious and conservative family, I was never really encouraged to explore my body. I started worrying when I got my period and …
5 years ago, if I watched this video, I would have anger pulsing and flowing through me. 😡 Anger blanketed towards our societal experiences as humans in the world. The expectations that are thrown at both vulva and penis owners (and especially vulva owners as ‘sex symbols’) – expectations of who we SHOULD be in our lives. …
What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …
I am someone who has never used a tampon or had any vaginal checkups before my marriage. I got married in 2017 and had a very painful experience when I and my husband tried for PIV sex for the first time. It was very painful during penetration and penetration was almost impossible. I told my mom …
At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …
For weeks I have never had the courage to really face the fight against vaginismus. I had bought dilators a few weeks ago but didn’t plan on using time any time soon. But then I took a social media break and focused on myself for some time. I have followed Katrin’s Instagram account (@pain.free.and.intimate) for …
Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …
Thanks for being willing to be vulnerable and share about your problem in order to help other women like me. I loved how easy it was to read your book. It only took me a couple of hours to finish it! The cover is discreet enough with the lovely flower on it. You included some …
Vaginismus. Personally, I think it sounds like a magic spell from a movie when you first hear it… Yet for the most part, women going through it will tell you first-hand that vaginismus is more like a curse. Vaginismus refers to the spasm of your pelvic muscles during any kind of penetrative act. It cannot …
Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …