Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Have you been told to ‘just do your kegels’? You may have found that your medical professional has thrown this word around like it’s the solution to all intimacy-related challenges! Kegels CAN be great! But doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Standard kegels …
I started seeing my current partner when I was 18 (I am now 24) and before this I had never had any sexual experiences… So I didn’t yet realize that I had vaginismus. There were signs – for example never being able to use tampons and never feeling comfortable with exploring my own body in …
If you’re dealing with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, choosing the right lubricant is even MORE important than the right set of dilators. When it comes to your dilating practice, it’s highly recommended to put a liberal amount of lube on the dilator before you attempt to insert it. And keep in mind, an …
I just want to say talking with you during our consultation was the beginning of a shift for me. I’m on to the biggest dilator of the original set I bought which is one of the hard plastic ones so not the easiest. I know I’ve a way to go with this one but I …
Unlike penis-owners, vagina-owners face a really significant downside. See, a man… Literally HOLDS his penis to pee standing up right. He can easily WATCH his penis during self-pleasure if he chooses to. Heck, he even touches it regularly through the day to adjust. At least in the media, men are portrayed comparing their junk in …
I shared my journey with you about vaginismus not too long ago… Well, I just wanted to say that I finally had pain free sex! Just about a month ago it was so hard and painful to put a tampon in and I felt unworthy afterwards. I felt like I was less and I felt …
The feeling like you need to pee is often an uncomfortable one. The reason for this sensation is that during your dilating practice, you’re hitting your G-spot and hence pushing on the bladder that is beside it! I invite you to empty your bladder just before… And to explore the G-spot further, in order to …
I always had the feeling that I am late in my life. I was one of the last girls who got their period, my body started to grow when everybody else was already dressed up “girly” and sexy. I had the impression that I was quite invisible for the majority of boys. My school classes were …
Most dilators sets are PRETTY pricey! A wonderful human recently commented on a post of mine on my Instagram: “I wish I was able to afford dilators… I wish dilators were more accessible and less of a huge privilege.” Agreed. And if that’s you, I’m sorry they’re not in your budget right now. So are …
I’m 41. I found out I had vaginismus when I was 22, on my wedding night with my first husband. I went through many doctors who didn’t know what was wrong with me… A hymenectomy because one doctor thought that a thick hymen was my problem, acupuncture, biofeedback, herbs, numbing creams, anxiety meds, kegels, dilators, the …