Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Communication is like a muscle… So divulging my sexy little secret is a strenuous workout, or at least it was at first. For the purposes of this conversation, I will be talking about cisgendered straight men. This is because people I have had sex with in the queer community have not been phased by my …
When I was first diagnosed with vaginismus I was in a relationship with a loving cis-gendered male partner. He was supportive and helped me work through a lot. We were together for two years and got very creative in the bedroom! When that relationship ended, (due to distance) I feared I would never find anyone …
Hookup culture! What a wild ride it’s been. There are aspects that I struggle with, in the most general sense, adding vaginismus to the mix only makes it more complicated. On the other hand, I am a singleton who wants to have a sex life. So how have I embraced this contradiction? Hookup culture is …
I was born and raised in a strict and religious home with African parents. Sex was never to be discussed, seen on TV, tried or even thought about. Sometimes I wondered how I was born, as I did not believe my parents had sex since it was such a taboo. Even though I had 4 other …
I was the first… one-on-one client that is. I had endometriosis, I had a hysterectomy, I had phantom pains, I had painful sex. I just had pain. After all of the previous situations I figured pain was the norm and always would be the norm. One night, I was fussing around with the computer putting …
Thank you so much for everything! I can finally say that I am free! I am so happy and so grateful for everything! Thank you for putting together this beautiful program! I would not have been able to do it without it! I never thought that I would get to this point, especially so quickly. I am …
“Have a glass of wine to loosen yourself up a bit?” These words were said to me by a doctor a few weeks before I turned 30. I’d been sexually active for 14 years and the truth is that sex was a mystery to me. I had had sex. Lots of sex. But for the …
After years living with vaginismus, I am now in a phase of stagnation where I know I have made a lot of progress from when I first started on this healing journey, but I am still far from my ultimate goal: pain free and pleasurable penetration… I felt I needed a push to understand how …
Okay, you know how when you see something odd looking, you just have to try it? That’s how I feel about this bug-looking vibrator. But how is a vibrator even relevant in the journey past painful sex? You see.. Clitoral stimulation can exponentially speed up the re-wiring of the brain and help you transform pain …
I have been diagnosed with vaginismus for about 3 years now. I grew up in a Christian home and practically lived at my church. Sex was viewed as a bad thing and should only be done when married. I saved myself for my husband. A month after being married and hardly any penetration happening (along …