Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Most dilators sets are PRETTY pricey! A wonderful human recently commented on a post of mine on my Instagram: “I wish I was able to afford dilators… I wish dilators were more accessible and less of a huge privilege.” Agreed. And if that’s you, I’m sorry they’re not in your budget right now. So are …
I’m 41. I found out I had vaginismus when I was 22, on my wedding night with my first husband. I went through many doctors who didn’t know what was wrong with me… A hymenectomy because one doctor thought that a thick hymen was my problem, acupuncture, biofeedback, herbs, numbing creams, anxiety meds, kegels, dilators, the …
On a seemingly ordinary day I woke up in my Connecticut apartment to an extreme burning and pain in my female organs… It literally felt like someone was taking a knife and shoving it up and down — a hot, hot knife to be exact. Naturally, I panicked, texted my boss and told her I …
Do you feel that burning… And the pain? What IF your lubricant actually helped your muscles relax and even soothed the stabbing sensation you feel? You see, lubricant to a set of dilators is like the cheese to a good bowl of macaroni. You can’t get enough of it. *If you’re asking yourself “What are …
You might not the type to just go out and buy a vibrator… I know I wasn’t. I was a bit curious about vibrators, but not enough to trek to a sex store for one or buy it online either. A part of me thought I just SHOULDN’T indulge in this sexual pleasure, especially with …
I struggled with vaginismus for as long as I can remember and did not find out about the existence of this condition until a couple of years ago. Growing up in a very religious and conservative family, I was never really encouraged to explore my body. I started worrying when I got my period and …
5 years ago, if I watched this video, I would have anger pulsing and flowing through me. 😡 Anger blanketed towards our societal experiences as humans in the world. The expectations that are thrown at both vulva and penis owners (and especially vulva owners as ‘sex symbols’) – expectations of who we SHOULD be in our lives. …
What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …
I am someone who has never used a tampon or had any vaginal checkups before my marriage. I got married in 2017 and had a very painful experience when I and my husband tried for PIV sex for the first time. It was very painful during penetration and penetration was almost impossible. I told my mom …
At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …