Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …
Thanks for being willing to be vulnerable and share about your problem in order to help other women like me. I loved how easy it was to read your book. It only took me a couple of hours to finish it! The cover is discreet enough with the lovely flower on it. You included some …
Vaginismus. Personally, I think it sounds like a magic spell from a movie when you first hear it… Yet for the most part, women going through it will tell you first-hand that vaginismus is more like a curse. Vaginismus refers to the spasm of your pelvic muscles during any kind of penetrative act. It cannot …
Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …
Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …
Life is jam-packed with emotions! You experience traumatic events in life, and your stores emotions and memories from them within yourself… These trapped emotions impact you in VERY real ways years after the initial trauma. That phenomenon is at the crux of vaginismus. After your brain creates an association of penetration to pain, you’re left …
How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it? Pretty immediately right? I mean, it SCREAMS for attention. If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right? Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner …
I first heard about dilators at an appointment I really wasn’t looking forward to… You see, I was lucky enough to be able to have the opportunity to see a sex therapist, thanks to my boyfriend at the time’s parents (and their employment benefits). Although I can’t say my experience at the sex therapist’s office …
I recall very clearly that especially at the beginning of my vaginismus days, my dilating practice was as pleasant as nails dragging along a chalk board. I made MANY mistakes. I now help vulva owners avoid my mistakes (and my misery). Just to name a few… I didn’t follow the golden rule of “avoid pain …
I remember the first time I tried to use a tampon at 14. I couldn’t get one into my vagina. After many attempts and finally being able to get a tampon ‘up there’ it felt as if my insides were on fire. Tampons 1, my vagina 0. I had friends who used tampons and none …