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I first heard about dilators at an appointment I really wasn’t looking forward to… You see, I was lucky enough to be able to have the opportunity to see a sex therapist, thanks to my boyfriend at the time’s parents (and their employment benefits). Although I can’t say my experience at the sex therapist’s office …
I recall very clearly that especially at the beginning of my vaginismus days, my dilating practice was as pleasant as nails dragging along a chalk board. I made MANY mistakes. I now help vulva owners avoid my mistakes (and my misery). Just to name a few… I didn’t follow the golden rule of “avoid pain …
I remember the first time I tried to use a tampon at 14. I couldn’t get one into my vagina. After many attempts and finally being able to get a tampon ‘up there’ it felt as if my insides were on fire. Tampons 1, my vagina 0. I had friends who used tampons and none …
Pissed off and in pain. That’s the slogan of the PMS chronicles. Have you found yourself debilitated by the pain of pre-menstrual cramps? Unable to go about your day as you planned, because your body is just not co-operating? This lack of co-operation once a month can be quite frustrating, especially when your body is …
My very first sexual penetration experience, at the age of 18 was a painful one. “Normal” as most would say for a first time. But that repeated itself the next time and the time after that… The pain was sharp and unexplainable. At first my body would just put up a wall, so I couldn’t …
The day I discovered kegel balls was an exciting one! When I found this tool at a sex store I visited, the store clerk explained that doing certain exercises, or even just walking around with the ball inside your vagina actually help strengthen and tone your vaginal pelvic floor muscles. I also learned that this …
My own experience with vaginismus inspired me to write Debbie Does Dilators. – Savannah Magruder, Writer/Director, award-winning filmmaker Watch the film here! And below is Savannah’s personal story and inside scoop about the film… After several years of struggling with the condition – enduring excruciatingly painful sex, being patronized and misdiagnosed by dismissive doctors, and …
I’m laying on my bed with a wand resting in my vagina. I grit my teeth and find myself holding my breath… Then I remember to breathe through the discomfort and to allow my body to relax. “This will be so worth it”, I think. I already know that this technique has given me incredible …
For as long as I could remember, I was always afraid of my vagina. I was scared to touch it, scared to look at it, scared and terrified of it. Looking back, I feel like this fear was my body telling me that something was wrong. I remember watching an episode of Tyra Banks talk …
Have you been missing pleasure and sensuality in your life lately? I can imagine that… Vaginismus served as a bulldozer, uprooting and discarding all the sexual desire you had built up. And when all the sexual desire was gone, it sprinkled seeds of sadness and repulsion about intimacy altogether. Yeah, I’m speaking from personal experience. …