Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
I have to admit… I felt shame related to my sexuality pretty much my entire life ever since I could understand the concept. That’s why I rarely explored my own body and capacity for pleasure. And when I did, I felt grossed out to use my own fingers to touch my vulva… So I avoided …
Vaginismus is usually defined as pain related to a psychological reaction in which the woman associates sexual activity with pain and fear. There’s a so-called phobia of any penetration or in some cases, anything going near the vagina. Just the thought of penetration, or any attempted penetration, gives involuntary muscle spasms around the vaginal opening. …
I have been struggling with vaginismus now for over two years. Originally, I did not know that this was what it was. I did not have a name for it and I kind of just felt helpless. This year I decided to get to the bottom of it. I was taken for test after test, …
When I was in primary school, around 10 years old we started to do some sex education lessons… In the first of these they showed us a cartoon video, in the video it showed a diagram of female anatomy and then the insertion of a tampon and how this looks from the inside. I remember …
I know you get lots of messages but I think you also remember me and our consultation (which I always hold in my heart). I just wanted to let you know that I have progressed so much in the last weeks. It’s like my mind made a 180 degree turn. From not being able to …
Have you been told to ‘just do your kegels’? You may have found that your medical professional has thrown this word around like it’s the solution to all intimacy-related challenges! Kegels CAN be great! But doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Standard kegels …
I started seeing my current partner when I was 18 (I am now 24) and before this I had never had any sexual experiences… So I didn’t yet realize that I had vaginismus. There were signs – for example never being able to use tampons and never feeling comfortable with exploring my own body in …
If you’re dealing with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, choosing the right lubricant is even MORE important than the right set of dilators. When it comes to your dilating practice, it’s highly recommended to put a liberal amount of lube on the dilator before you attempt to insert it. And keep in mind, an …
I just want to say talking with you during our consultation was the beginning of a shift for me. I’m on to the biggest dilator of the original set I bought which is one of the hard plastic ones so not the easiest. I know I’ve a way to go with this one but I …
Unlike penis-owners, vagina-owners face a really significant downside. See, a man… Literally HOLDS his penis to pee standing up right. He can easily WATCH his penis during self-pleasure if he chooses to. Heck, he even touches it regularly through the day to adjust. At least in the media, men are portrayed comparing their junk in …