Dilating, Product Reviews

Affordable Dilators? (Blush Novelties Dilators Review)

Most dilators sets are PRETTY pricey! A wonderful human recently commented on a post of mine on my Instagram: “I wish I was able to afford dilators… I wish dilators were more accessible and less of a huge privilege.” Agreed. And if that’s you, I’m sorry they’re not in your budget right now. So are …

Intimacy, Product Reviews, Self-Care

Painting With Chocolate To Sweeten Your Sex Life? Even If You’re Bitter About Vaginismus…

What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …

Intimacy, Kink, Product Reviews

How The ‘Darkness’ Of Your Sexual Desires Can Shed Light On Vaginismus

At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …

Testimonials

Thankfully Katrin Made Me Motivated And Brave Enough To Go For It And It Was A Great Decision

For weeks I have never had the courage to really face the fight against vaginismus. I had bought dilators a few weeks ago but didn’t plan on using time any time soon.  But then I took a social media break and focused on myself for some time. I have followed Katrin’s Instagram account (@pain.free.and.intimate) for …

Dilating, Product Reviews

Magnetic Dilators? How They’re Different Than Other Sets (VuVa Dilators Review… And Giveaway!)

Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …

Guest Post

My Body Won’t Let Me Have Sex: The Spell Of Vaginismus

Vaginismus. Personally, I think it sounds like a magic spell from a movie when you first hear it… Yet for the most part, women going through it will tell you first-hand that vaginismus is more like a curse. Vaginismus refers to the spasm of your pelvic muscles during any kind of penetrative act. It cannot …

Kegels, Product Reviews

The Dangers Of Kegel Exercises

Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …

Books, Intimacy, Pain Management, Product Reviews

Painful Sex And The Medical Community

Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …