Testimonials, You're Not Alone

Talking During Our Consultation Was The Beginning Of A Shift For Me

I just want to say talking with you during our consultation was the beginning of a shift for me. I’m on to the biggest dilator of the original set I bought which is one of the hard plastic ones so not the easiest. I know I’ve a way to go with this one but I …

Guest Post, You're Not Alone

From Anxiety About The Female Anatomy To Becoming A Midwife And Overcoming Vaginismus: Becky’s Story

When I was in primary school, around 10 years old we started to do some sex education lessons… In the first of these they showed us a cartoon video, in the video it showed a diagram of female anatomy and then the insertion of a tampon and how this looks from the inside. I remember …

Dilating, Lubrication, Product Reviews, Self-Care

How Your Lubricant May Be Messing Up Your Vagina (Good Clean Love Lubricant Review… And Giveaway!)

If you’re dealing with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, choosing the right lubricant is even MORE important than the right set of dilators. When it comes to your dilating practice, it’s highly recommended to put a liberal amount of lube on the dilator before you attempt to insert it. And keep in mind, an …

Intimacy, Self-Care, Sensuality, Trauma

Yoni Gazing – An Ancient Tantric Ritual To Help With Painful Sex And Vaginismus

Unlike penis-owners, vagina-owners face a really significant downside. See, a man… Literally HOLDS his penis to pee standing up right. He can easily WATCH his penis during self-pleasure if he chooses to. Heck, he even touches it regularly through the day to adjust. At least in the media, men are portrayed comparing their junk in …

Dilating, Intimacy, Product Reviews, Vibrators

Feeling Like You Need To Pee During Dilating? The G-Spot Revealed

The feeling like you need to pee is often an uncomfortable one. The reason for this sensation is that during your dilating practice, you’re hitting your G-spot and hence pushing on the bladder that is beside it! I invite you to empty your bladder just before… And to explore the G-spot further, in order to …

Dilating, Product Reviews

Affordable Dilators? (Blush Novelties Dilators Review)

Most dilators sets are PRETTY pricey! A wonderful human recently commented on a post of mine on my Instagram: “I wish I was able to afford dilators… I wish dilators were more accessible and less of a huge privilege.” Agreed. And if that’s you, I’m sorry they’re not in your budget right now. So are …

Testimonials, You're Not Alone

We Felt Understood. We Felt Empowered. We Felt Hope.

I’m 41. I found out I had vaginismus when I was 22, on my wedding night with my first husband.  I went through many doctors who didn’t know what was wrong with me… A hymenectomy because one doctor thought that a thick hymen was my problem, acupuncture, biofeedback, herbs, numbing creams, anxiety meds, kegels, dilators, the …