Katrin with Love
Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
45 Minute Private Consultation
The Beautiful Beginning Of Your New Chapter
A friendly online video chat
This is an opportunity to share your story with someone who understands... Perhaps for the first time ever!

Feeling heard during this consultation in itself can be an emotionally healing experience!

And I'd be honoured to serve as an ear to listen from a place of love and compassion.

If you're looking for answers in your vaginismus journey, I'll also be happy to address your questions and share personalized guidance.

So you feel better prepared in creating the pain free and intimate life you want!
Value: Priceless
The 45 minute private consultation is free
We felt understood. We felt empowered. We felt hope. 
I’m 41. I found out I had vaginismus when I was 22, on my wedding night with my first husband. 

I went through many doctors who didn’t know what was wrong with me... A hymenectomy because one doctor thought that a thick hymen was my problem, acupuncture, biofeedback, herbs, numbing creams, anxiety meds, kegels, dilators, the list goes on.

Dilator therapy eventually did make penetration possible, but with soreness, and sexual pleasure was never achieved. That marriage ended after 7 years, and 12 years later (last July) I married the love of my life. I had not been sexually active in between, although I always used tampons and had my annual exams. 

Now, being married and sexually active again, I find that although vaginal penetration is possible with plenty of lube, it needs to happen slowly. I still feel tightness and soreness with penetration, so that in itself doesn’t lead to sexual arousal. 

The good news is that with my current partner, I am able to feel sexual pleasure and regularly achieve climax with external stimulation (things I was never able to achieve in my first marriage). The most recent thing we tried before meeting Katrin was pelvic floor therapy/massage, stretching/relaxing muscle and breathing exercises, and magnetic dilators. My goal is to achieve pleasure and arousal during penetrative sex. The first step is to no longer have tightness/soreness with penetration. 

One thing to note: Many doctors throughout the years have recommended masturbation as a necessary step in achieving my goals. 

Although I wholeheartedly agree with self-care, loving myself, and being good to my mind and body, I do not due to personal beliefs agree with nor wish to incorporate sexual self-pleasure as part of my journey to recovery. I’m grateful Katrin respects this, and offers positive alternatives, such as incorporating pleasure into partner-involved dilator therapy. 

And, I do maintain open and honest communication with my husband about what feels good and we even incorporate sexual toys in our intimate play in order to increase pleasure mutually. 

And I’m so blessed to have an amazing husband who is patient and committed and invested in working right alongside with me to help me with my struggle. He purchased the book “Breaking the Cycle of Vaginismus” and both read it cover to cover the night it arrived. 

We knew we had come to the right place. We immediately set up an initial consultation with Katrin and we are so glad we did. She is patient, empathetic, extremely knowledgeable, and kind. And she’s been where I've been. All of the things that are needed to have the right coach and mentor through such an intimate and challenging process. 

She listened carefully and provided much valuable knowledge. She educated us on ways to make the things we were already implementing be the most effective and introduced us to new activities and techniques that we’d never even heard of. 

She was never pushy. 

We felt understood. We felt empowered. We felt hope. 

We are looking forward to putting into practice everything she suggested and to continuing to work with her on this journey toward total recovery. 

My advice if you’ve been searching everywhere for something to help with your situation, someone to understand your pain, you don’t need to look any further. You’ve come to the right place. 

You can find relief. You will find relief. 

We are at the beginning of our journey with her and we have already found measurable relief, and we know you will, too. 

It is possible to break the cycle of pain!

- Anonymous (41 years old, New York, USA)
Talking during our consultation was the beginning of a shift for me
I just want to say talking with you during our consultation was the beginning of a shift for me.

I’m on to the biggest dilator of the original set I bought which is one of the hard plastic ones so not the easiest. I know I’ve a way to go with this one but I never thought I’d get there and have to say am really loving the self care routines I’ve carved through dilating. 

I can feel the overall impact on my anxiety levels and just feel like I’m listening to myself and my body more - giving it what it needs and most importantly learning to slow down. 

Incorporating my partner with the dilating will be the next thing and I know that’s going to bring its own challenges but I feel hopeful because I feel I’m more in touch with myself and my body and what it needs to feel relaxed and safe. So thanks! 

Really appreciate the content you share on your Instagram @pain.free.and.intimate too - I always slow down when it appears in my stories. Thanks for sharing your journey and wisdom to help so many others.

- Anonymous (33 years old, Ireland)
I have progressed so much in the last weeks
I know you get lots of messages but I think you also remember me and our consultation (which I always hold in my heart).

I just wanted to let you know that I have progressed so much in the last weeks. It’s like my mind made a 180 degree turn.

From not being able to even look at my vulva, I am now at dilator 2 and I can touch my vulva from all angles without fear!

Also I managed inserting my full finger which is such a big deal.

I kinda wanted to let you know that since you are always such a help in my healing journey.

– Anonymous (24 years old, Hamburg, Germany)
I am not broken and I now have the tools to work through vaginismus
I have been struggling with vaginismus now for over two years. 

​​Originally, I did not know that this was what it was. I did not have a name for it and I kind of just felt helpless. This year I decided to get to the bottom of it. I was taken for test after test, and sent on a whirlwind of medical diagnoses. Finally, I was sent to an OBGYN who diagnosed me properly with vaginismus. Before booking my consultation I felt lost, like I had reached a dead end. I had almost accepted that painful sex was all that there was for me and I was just going to have to learn how to live with it. 

I did not experience any resistance in booking my consultation with Katrin. I felt so lost that I would have grabbed on to anyone who I thought would be able to help me. I just needed someone to give me a game plan, I needed to hear that there was a light at the end of the tunnel, and I needed the resources to get through this. No one around me seemed to know what could help and this is what made me feel so discouraged and frustrated.

During our chat I felt hopeful. I felt like there was finally someone there that understood what I was going through. I have been open with my friends and family through this journey but still have not been able to find comfort in them. They do not understand, they do not know how to help, or what to say. 

Katrin gave me a sense of hope. I feel like this is all I needed in order to have the motivation to work through the steps necessary and leave vaginismus in my past. As soon as I heard the words you will get through this, I felt calm. I think that I realized that I was placing the blame on myself for what I was experiencing. 

When Katrin told me that I was not broken it really hit me hard. I realized in that moment that I was assigning that label to myself. Broken. I am not broken and I now have the tools to work through vaginismus. I am proud of myself for not giving up. I am even proud of myself for allowing myself to feel frustrated. All of these emotions and experiences have led me to where I am now and I do not regret any of them.

I wish that others who are experiencing vaginismus would be able to know that they are also not broken. I want them to know that there is so much more happening than what appears on the surface and that you can get through it. For me, just knowing that I would move past this was enough to bring me comfort. 

I would recommend that others reach out to Katrin because through her experiences, she has been able to provide others with the tools needed to find peace. Just after our consultation, I decided to invest in The Pain Free and Intimate Recipe and I no longer feel stress when I think about my vaginismus. 

I now see it as a journey. One that I will overcome. One that is not pleasant. But also, one that will make me stronger and more in tune with myself than I ever thought possible.

- Anonymous
I was able to drop into my body and feel love and compassion for myself and my journey
Thank you SO much for taking the time to chat with me the other day, I found it immensely helpful, supportive and enlightening! 

When I saw your email saying consultation I immediately opened it and found there was an opening the NEXT day. It was totally divine timing with where I was at. I was getting triggered by where I was in my healing, and feeling really stuck. 

I'm so glad you made yourself available. 

I have been struggling with vaginismus for as long as I can remember, although I was officially diagnosed with it about 3 years ago. I have been trying everything and realized the main block I am struggling with is an emotional wall and numbness. I learned about reprogramming the subconscious. I realized how much of a battle I am in with myself because I want to heal so badly and something inside is getting in the way. Instead of getting frustrated and exhausted though, I need to learn how to retrain my body to access feelings of safety... relaxation.. allowing... surrendering...

I noticed when I was speaking with you that I was able to drop into my body and feel love and compassion for myself and my journey. I also realized how NOT alone and NOT unique I am in this... which is such a relief. Your voice, wisdom, listening and reflection allowed me to feel safe and trusting. 

I wish for others struggling with vaginismus to DEFINITELY reach out for help, especially when you feel despair, hopeless, stuck and at war. There is the right support out there and there is no reason to give up! Especially with someone like Katrin who is so loving, compassionate, genuine, caring, and relatable. 
 
Thanks again - I will absolutely reach out in the future about possibly working with you more.. I really enjoyed everything you have to offer and appreciate your time and expertise!

- Anonymous
The way we spoke was like we already knew each other
Before our consultation I was really anxious and I have to admit even in the past weeks I was super anxious with the idea of sharing my experience, but it was really natural for me at the end. 

The way we spoke was like we already knew each other and I didn't feel uncomfortable at all! 

Of course it's still the beginning for me and I am struggling with a lot of mixed feelings this year, from self awareness to a sensation of fear, fear of not being able to feel better but also fear of the pain. I am proud I am handling it and since I opened myself with my therapist, my friends and even with you, I feel so much better and more relaxed. 

From this point of view internet really can help us, finding in your page stories like yours or also other pages related to vaginismus really help me: in the past year I used to feel like I was an "alien", that something was wrong with me, but now I know I am not wrong, I am just human!!
I hope everyone can understand this, that we have nothing to be afraid of and that there is still hope for us, even in the darkest times.

- Anonymous (25 years old, Venice, Italy)
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