You’ve probably already read about the dilator options out there… And have noticed that there are silicone, plastic and even glass alternatives! I thought that I had explored them all… Until the wonderful Varda Messer from Aquafit Intimate reached out, to share that they had just won the Women’s Sexual Wellness and Self Care by …
Uber Slippery Lubricant
The first time I tried having penetrative sex… I didn’t use lubricant. Yep, I know. Big mistake. It 99% wouldn’t have helped me get my partner’s penis past the WALL that my body put up… But looking back, I recognize that I could have been better prepared to make my first time having PIV sex …
My Satisfying Orgasms
A friend of mine with endometriosis, a comrade in the experience of pelvic pain, gave me advice that changed the game for me. Orgasming before penetration can help reduce pain. An orgasm can ensure that the muscles are more relaxed and in many cases, also that the body is more lubricated. Basically, the body is …
Plastic Pelvic Wand For Trigger Point Release
Getting a kink in your neck after an uncomfortable night’s sleep is… Annoying to say the least! Getting a kink in the 1000x less physically accessible place in our bodies, in our vaginas, is a WHOLE lot worse. I wrote all about that and the practice of trigger point release, used to relieve this tightness …
Adding The Play Back Into The Healing Process, Whether Together Or Apart
Before we ever talk about introducing penetration again through something like dilating, the emotional healing journey to find safety in your mind and body again is crucial… And so is rekindling intimate connection with yourself and with your partner! Adding fun, play and pleasure back into turn-on is a MUST! As part of rekindling that …
Come As You Are – Perfect, As You Always Have Been
I clearly remember… As I went deeper and deeper down the slippery slope of pain, my desire for sexual acts diminished. I mean of course it would! Penetrative sex was at first impossible for me. When I tried to force it and push through the initial physical barrier, it became incredibly painful. Think a freshly …
Breast Massage For Sexual Healing And Getting Your Libido Back
You’ve probably read plenty about the vulva and vagina in the process of overcoming vaginismus… The ancient sex wisdom of Taoism confirms the intricate connection between the genitals and optimal functions of other organs and glands in the body. Creating harmony in these sacred areas of your body really is important in relieving tension and …
Using Your Fingers For Pleasure
If you’re anything like me… You didn’t explore your body sexually very much during your life. For me… The times that I did engage in self-pleasure, I felt the need to rush this process. Like I was doing something unacceptable. Instead of surrendering into it, taking my time and approaching pleasure with the goal of …
What Does Surrender Have To Do With Vaginismus?
What’s ironic is that for many of us… The very thing that has kept us safe in the world is the thing we NEED to set aside in order to enjoy penetrative sex. That’s right. We’ve grown up in the world where having control over our external circumstances is what has kept us SAFE. That …
9 Sex Positions For Transitioning To Penetrative Sex
So you have gone through the entire healing journey so far like a champ! You have SO much to be proud of yourself already. You’ve done the emotional healing that is so necessary to even considering any of the physical healing pieces. You’ve found and embraced your authentic sexual self and have learned to celebrate …