Helping you put vaginismus in the past, for good
How quickly when you get a kink in your neck do you notice it? Pretty immediately right? I mean, it SCREAMS for attention. If you sleep wrong and wake up with a sore neck, you’d take action and give yourself a well-deserved massage, am I right? Or use your puppy eyes and ask your partner …
I first heard about dilators at an appointment I really wasn’t looking forward to… You see, I was lucky enough to be able to have the opportunity to see a sex therapist, thanks to my boyfriend at the time’s parents (and their employment benefits). Although I can’t say my experience at the sex therapist’s office …
I recall very clearly that especially at the beginning of my vaginismus days, my dilating practice was as pleasant as nails dragging along a chalk board. I made MANY mistakes. I now help vulva owners avoid my mistakes (and my misery). Just to name a few… I didn’t follow the golden rule of “avoid pain …
Pissed off and in pain. That’s the slogan of the PMS chronicles. Have you found yourself debilitated by the pain of pre-menstrual cramps? Unable to go about your day as you planned, because your body is just not co-operating? This lack of co-operation once a month can be quite frustrating, especially when your body is …
The day I discovered kegel balls was an exciting one! When I found this tool at a sex store I visited, the store clerk explained that doing certain exercises, or even just walking around with the ball inside your vagina actually help strengthen and tone your vaginal pelvic floor muscles. I also learned that this …
I’m laying on my bed with a wand resting in my vagina. I grit my teeth and find myself holding my breath… Then I remember to breathe through the discomfort and to allow my body to relax. “This will be so worth it”, I think. I already know that this technique has given me incredible …
Have you been missing pleasure and sensuality in your life lately? I can imagine that… Vaginismus served as a bulldozer, uprooting and discarding all the sexual desire you had built up. And when all the sexual desire was gone, it sprinkled seeds of sadness and repulsion about intimacy altogether. Yeah, I’m speaking from personal experience. …
Pelvic pain. It’s NOT what you asked for. In your teens, thinking about what sex would feel like was so exciting, mysterious, and raw. And the pain you encountered out of the blue felt like someone stuck a knife in the back of your teenage fantasies! Disappointment washed over you. Fear of the unknown. The …
You’re on the vaginismus journey. You’ve been through thick and thin. You’ve decided to take action and undergo the necessary emotional healing and physical therapy in order to work up to having penetrative sex. And you’ve made progress! You’ve been able to gain partial control of your pelvic floor muscles and achieve some penetration. In …
For many vulva owners struggling with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, a daily practice with dilators is often part of the healing journey… *If you’re asking yourself “What are dilators?”, you might first want to read about how dilating can help on your journey in healing vaginismus. But dilating can be an incredibly uncomfortable …