The Common Responses – The Apathetic, The Deserter, And The Mind Opener

Communication is like a muscle… So divulging my sexy little secret is a strenuous workout, or at least it was at first. For the purposes of this conversation, I will be talking about cisgendered straight men. This is because people I have had sex with in the queer community have not been phased by my …

Welcoming Vaginismus – A Tiny Memoir: Fiamma’s Story

Many thanks to Victor Yrigoyen for the illustrations. Check out his website and Instagram. “For many, the psychological impact of vaginismus can be even more agonizing than the physical pain. The stigma of “virginity,” combined with the lacking mention of vaginismus in public dialogue, society’s insistence that “men need sex,” and the social pressure on women to have …

Vaginismus, Vulvodynia, Endometriosis And Uterus Didelphys – An Incredibly Tough Reality

Vaginismus is usually defined as pain related to a psychological reaction in which the woman associates sexual activity with pain and fear. There’s a so-called phobia of any penetration or in some cases, anything going near the vagina. Just the thought of penetration, or any attempted penetration, gives involuntary muscle spasms around the vaginal opening. …

From Anxiety About The Female Anatomy To Becoming A Midwife And Overcoming Vaginismus: Becky’s Story

When I was in primary school, around 10 years old we started to do some sex education lessons… In the first of these they showed us a cartoon video, in the video it showed a diagram of female anatomy and then the insertion of a tampon and how this looks from the inside. I remember …

6 Lessons Of The Vaginismus Journey – A Brave Soul’s Story Of Resilience

I struggled with vaginismus for as long as I can remember and did not find out about the existence of this condition until a couple of years ago. Growing up in a very religious and conservative family, I was never really encouraged to explore my body. I started worrying when I got my period and …