Painting With Chocolate To Sweeten Your Sex Life? Even If You’re Bitter About Vaginismus…

What is the biggest disappointment you’ve experienced? One of the most memorable ones for me is feeling like a failure because I couldn’t go all the way in the bedroom. Vaginismus can do that to you… It can make you feel incomplete. Inadequate. A sorry definition of a human who couldn’t give her partner what …

How The ‘Darkness’ Of Your Sexual Desires Can Shed Light On Vaginismus

At its greatest level of intensity and domination, what does this picture scream to you? Deep down for you, this scene might be associated with naughtiness… Secrecy… Sexual arousal… Excitement! And even joy!! But do you also have a sense of guilt and shame attached to these positive emotions? You see… Similar to the 5 …

Thankfully Katrin Made Me Motivated And Brave Enough To Go For It

For weeks I have never had the courage to really face the fight against vaginismus. I had bought dilators a few weeks ago but didn’t plan on using them any time soon.  But then I took a social media break and focused on myself for some time. I have followed Katrin’s Instagram account for a …

Magnetic Dilators? How They’re Different Than Other Sets

Typical plastic dilators. Ugh. I wish I used more comfortable dilators than my plastic set! I didn’t know better and, well they were a gift… From my PARENTS of all people! They willingly went a sex store, inquired with the sex store clerk all about their daughter’s ‘sex problem’ and brought these babies home. I …

Care For A Minty Gum For Your Clitoris?

For many vulva owners struggling with painful sex and vaginismus in particular, a daily practice with dilators is often part of the healing journey… *If you’re asking yourself “What are dilators?”, you might first want to read about how dilating can help on your journey in healing vaginismus. But minty gum?! Let me back up …

The Dangers Of Kegel Exercises

Has YOUR medical professional told you to do your kegels? Before you follow their advice, I urge you to consider a few important factors… Because doing kegel exercises when your pelvic floor is not ready for them can actually INCREASE your pelvic pain! Since standard kegel exercises (and kegel exerciser balls) aim to strengthen the …

Painful Sex And The Medical Community

Experiences are the essence of life and wisdom… That’s why I urge you to seek out mentors in life, seek those people who are further ahead on the same path you’re on. People who have been where you are now. And have moved ahead with joy and excitement. People with relevant experience! And there are …